Parents Need Self-Care to Be Their Best Self

May 11, 2018

You put the oxygen mask on yourself before others.

We hear that lesson reiterated often. But in practice—when a parent thinks their child needs help—what is their gut instinct?

Self-care for parents is a challenging issue, and yet parents need self-care to be their best self. Balancing work and home life with a career, socializing, financial issues, a marriage or relationship, and raising kids makes being a parent a difficult juggling act.

How can parents find time for their own wellness amidst the hustle?

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect

How to Stop Yelling and Prevent Misbehavior

April 18, 2018

You’re at the grocery store and your five-year-old asks for a candy bar. It’s dinnertime and you want him to eat real food at home, so you say no. Instantly your child starts whining, which quickly escalates into a full-blown tantrum. What do you do?

It’s morning and you have an early and very important meeting at the office. You need to get to work, but first you need to drop the kids off at school. Your elementary-age daughter refuses to get ready for school. She says she hates school and she won’t go. How do you deal with that?

Your teenage son gets mouthy when you tell him he can’t go [...]

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect

Why Exercising as a Family Makes Good Sense

April 14, 2018

Life before kids is such sweet sorrow; I used to take care of myself and exercise, up with the dawn for a refreshing run along the seashore. When my boy was born, I was up with the dawn running back and forth changing diapers. So ended the days of the refreshing oceanside runs.

Then a few months later when he was six months old, I had an epiphany: he wakes up early, I wake up early, why not sit him in the stroller and restart my sorely missed morning exercise routine? The fresh sea breeze was healthy for the both of us, and ever since I've found that we were both in a better mood after our [...]

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect

Teenage Rebellion and the Teen Parent Connection

April 10, 2018
With no hesitation, I can proudly say that my mother is my best friend in this world. And I remember detesting her. If you put a snapshot of my teenage years next to life today, they would probably look like two different people.

While adolescents are not a different breed, they might at times seem like it. This portrayal has only been heightened by media and movie portrayals. Teens get stereotyped as hormonal, socially lost or explosive.

Let’s put all that aside for a moment though to look at why teenage “rebellion” is actually perfectly in line.

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect

The Best Way to Deal with Teenage Rebellion

April 09, 2018

Many parents dread the teen years. They’ve heard negative, even scary, stories for years. As a culture, we’ve got teens pegged—out-of-control, disrespectful, and rebellious. Time for a change of perspective.

Just when our teens need us the most, they focus more on peers. Yet, this tendency does not displace the primary relationship teens have with their parents.

Time to understand how to create a strong teen parent connection! Time for hacking the teen brain. 

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect, Parenting Favorites

4 Keys to Set Healthy Boundaries for Teens

October 07, 2017
  All parents hope their children will become respectful, responsible, and loving adults. However, family and work lives are extremely busy and hectic. Time collapses like a cheap cardboard box and soon the months turn to years and toddlers turn to teens. Parents find themselves stumped by the teenage years and completely unprepared.
 
As parents, we can slip into inattentive parenting from sheer exhaustion. Genes alone cannot give children emotional control. Sorry to disappoint but no gene guarantees emotional intelligence. This critical development is up to parents. Children [...]

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, Parenting Favorites

Understanding Is the Key to Teens' Erratic Behavior 

September 08, 2017

Recently, an unforeseen disaster ravaged the renowned Columbia River Gorge, a long stretch of green mountains, waterfalls and riverbed running between the border northern Oregon and southern Washington state. Both states and thousands of visitors were devastated.

Then the news broke that the fires started from the spark of a mismanaged firework: teens playing with fireworks were throwing them from the edge of a bridge in the Gorge. One boy tossed while another recorded the stunt with his smartphone.

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect

How to Navigate Being a Sibling in a Blended Family

September 02, 2017

"Are you an only child?"

That question always gives me pause. Yes, but also, no. I am not alone in being the child of a blended family. Nor am I the only one who’s a bit confused by the whole situation—parents included.

Between 1970 and 1990, the shift in family dynamics was staggering. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the number of children living with both parents declined by nearly 15 percent. The number of single-mother households or children living with grandparents saw similar, double-digit jumps. In the past decade, we’ve reached something of a plateau, as far as family [...]

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect

Addressing Sibling Rivalry in the Home

July 21, 2017

Sibling rivalry is practically guaranteed as soon as a family has more than one child. But that does not make it any easier to handle, or any less frustrating for the parents, most of whom have a very different ideal home life in mind.

When brothers and sisters argue, the entire family dynamic is rocked. Arguments at home can easily spill into each family member’s work or social life. Strife can make a happy, healthy family life seem like an unattainable dream. In extreme circumstances, it can even lead to enduring psychological or physical pains. This leaves parents frustrated and [...]

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect

How to Effectively Help Your Children with Stress

July 19, 2017

Psychology Today has this to say about stress. "Stress generally refers to two things: the psychological perception of pressure, on the one hand, and the body's response to it... Lifesaving as the stress response is, it was meant to solve short-term, life-threatening problems, not extended difficulties ... Prolonged or repeated arousal of the stress response, a characteristic of modern life, can have harmful physical and psychological effects."

However, it is the perception of a threat by you and your child that determines whether or not a cascade of survival chemicals is triggered and [...]

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Recent Posts

Most Popular