You Build a Great Future by Being Present Now

May 16, 2019

“Gotta pick up the kids from school.” “Gotta get this report done by tomorrow.” “Gotta shop for dinner.” “Gotta pay the bills!” “Gotta get to the gym and lose this extra weight.” “Gotta get to the dry cleaners before they close.” Gotta, gotta, gotta.

The hustle and bustle of life and the need to get somewhere are themes I hear frequently. We are seekers. We are travelers. And we are often unaware that we are reaching for something while ignoring what is happening right now—within ourselves and around us.

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Do We Need to Experience Love to Be Loving?

May 09, 2019

"Forgiveness" is a term used so often that few people question its intrinsic value. You'd probably agree that asking for and offering forgiveness has become common practice. Just like many others, I was taught growing up that when you hurt someone—even accidentally—the right thing to do is to say you're sorry and ask for forgiveness. Children quickly learn when adults expect an apology, even when a child may have lacked the skill to respond differently.

Many may be surprised for me to question the long and treasured tradition of forgiveness and how we view love in the context of forgiving [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

How to Change Habits and Create a Life You Love!

March 12, 2019

There is a lot of talk about creating a life you love. The internet is a smorgasbord of information about how to change our lives from topics such as “How to Attract Your Soul Mate” to scientific articles on “Change Your Brain and Transform Your Life.” And just like overeating at a giant buffet, if you consume too much, the result is indigestion.

Often clients come to me for coaching with the indigestion of overload and confusion. Why? Because too much information often causes paralysis. Mental indigestion is a problem of too much. It’s impossible to act on everything, so an overwhelmed [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Mind Mapping—a Fun Way to Process, Organize, and Remember Information

February 17, 2019

In my younger years, I did a lot of journaling to process my emotions and sort through my thoughts. However, it’s no longer my favorite way to process, organize, or share information. I haven’t journaled in years, but I have done a lot of mind mapping. It’s fun, effective, and it works with the natural processes of the brain.

Tony Buzan, coined the term and technique, Mind Mapping, in the 1960s. Buzan is a specialist in innovation, memory, thinking process, and creativity. The basic premise is to use pictures, words, colors, and nonlinear forms to create, remember, organize, or present [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

"Intention, Not Tension"

September 28, 2018

With all the daily ups and downs and the moment-by-moment challenges that arise in our lives, it's easy to forget that we have a say in how we feel. We have the ability to choose our response no matter what happens (and things do happen). We can create our experience in each moment, even when it doesn’t feel like we have any choice at all.

How do we do this? By being mindful of our reactions and self-talk. At any moment, we can set our reset button, shifting tension to a conscious intention. Perhaps our intention is to remain calm even when things go wrong. These mini decisions determine [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Resiliency—the Ability to Bounce Back

July 20, 2018

One beautiful autumn evening, after a full day with clients, I was carrying the groceries through the living room when I noticed my dog's peculiar paw prints on the carpet. In shock, I quickly dumped the bags on a table and walked into our kitchen, which now resembled a toddlers' wading pool.

The floor was covered with an inch of water, and it was rapidly seeping into the dining room carpet. Where the heck was the water coming from? Quickly I ran down to the basement to grab old towels to soak up the water—and was greeted with the horror of another flood, water still gushing from above and [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Making Mindfulness Practical in Business

June 05, 2018

The concept and practice of mindfulness is becoming all the rage. Our fast-paced, high-tech lives have left many of us too stressed out to be happy. And it’s becoming increasingly difficult to find meaning and purpose in what we do, something becoming increasingly important for future generations.

Mindfulness can be summed up as “present moment awareness.” It’s the practice of being in the “here and now.” Most people practice mindfulness with meditation or another mindful sitting so that they can focus on their breath, observe their thoughts, and emotions and gain perspective on [...]

Posted in Business and Leadership, Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Visualization and How to Create a Future You Love

May 24, 2018

It’s one thing to say you want something, another to make it a goal, and another to visualize yourself achieving your goal. The last option is possibly the most powerful.

Visualization has been cited as a game-changer by athletes like Olympian Kerri Walsh, celebrities like Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith and Jim Carrey, and influential business people like Bo Bennet and Harvey Mackay.

Rehearsing your own success is not just for the rich and famous, though. It is a powerful tool for everyone from parents at home to kids applying to college, business owners and everyday staff workers.

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

How to Handle Distracting Technology at Home

March 01, 2018

You are now competing with pixels for the attention of nearly everyone you know. And you are probably losing.  

Technology addiction, screen time, the black hole of the internet, Reddit and the endless scroll of Instagram—not to mention those notifications every time an email slides in...the widespread influence of tech is a thing of daily life for most American families. There are more ways for screens to suck people in than there are people to be enticed.

The other day, my dog got so caught up in a Game of Thrones episode that she wouldn’t come when I called (there were wolves on the [...]

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships, Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Love Has No Labels

February 13, 2018

Maybe you’ve seen the images? A white square superimposed over a picture of your friend, mom or coworker, an NFL quarterback, celebrity or news anchor. Inside the box, this phrase: “love has no labels.”

This campaign—though “campaign” can’t really capture its essence—is spreading, and fast.

The motto is simple, as the most powerful revolutionary thoughts tend to be: “Before anything else, we are human.”

Personally, I cannot help but think of the opening to Pride & Prejudice, “It is a truth universally acknowledged that…” It seems painfully simple to say that we are human. Obviously, we [...]

Posted in Communication & Interpersonal Skills, Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective