Teachers Rise to the Challenges of Emergency Distance Education

May 05, 2020

As schools across the nation from Pre-K to Doctoral work have moved to online platform schools, teachers, students, and families alike are struggling to deal with the transition. As a Middle School Teacher, I have struggled with the transition from Brick-and-Mortar School Teacher to Coming to You from My Living Room Teacher.

The most critical concept that has helped me with this transition has been learning the phrase Emergency Distance Education (EDE). It has a few variations including Emergency Remote Learning and Emergency Remote Education.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence

I'm so emotional! Is something wrong with me?

May 02, 2020

Are your emotions running your life? Does worry keep you up at night? Do you ever say to yourself, "Why am I so emotional?" Or does your partner say to you, "Stop being so emotional!" or "Why do you have to be so sensitive?" 

All of these described me years ago. I had little to no control of my emotions and the slightest provocation incited tears. I even remember my now-grown son teasing me because I cried at Bambi. Every day, a haunting doubt kept eating at me: "Is there something wrong with me?"

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Infuse Your Morning Routine with These Uplifting Habits

April 14, 2020

When life is full of uncertainty, what suffers most is your routine. With schools closed, sporting and social events canceled, and work now transferred to your home office; everything is topsy turvy. It's time to readjust and create new routines that support you during this unexpected cycle.

Routines can make us more efficient, reduce our stress level, and benefit our overall mental and physical health. With the coronavirus affecting people on a global scale, we've had to adapt to a new lifestyle that we didn’t see coming and definitely didn’t ask for. Whether you live by yourself [...]

Posted in Habits for Health, Emotional Intelligence

Shining through the Chaos:  Resiliency and Greatness!

April 08, 2020

There's no avoiding the unprecedented event of COVID-19 and the havoc that the virus is creating in our lives, businesses, and the world. It is disrupting our routines, leveling our way of life, depleting our financial well-being, and challenging us in ways we've never known before.

One moment we may think we're doing pretty good (no matter how fleeting); maybe we even feel at times confident that we'll make it through okay. Then the next minute, we're anxious, watching the unfoldment of a viral tsunami that no one understands entirely nor has a clue as to where it will take us.

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence

Why Everyone Needs Empathy and Self-Compassion—Especially Now!

April 04, 2020

Without exception and across the globe, people’s lives are disheveled. A major disruption has changed our way of life. Schools and businesses are closed; it’s uncertain when they will reopen. Many families are confined to their homes; it’s uncertain for how long. Entire countries are in lockdown. Those who are working at the front lines are risking their health to support others. Will this time make us more unified or divided? It all depends on empathy.

Empathy is the ability to understand what others are feeling and experiencing, no matter who or where they live. The coronavirus is [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence, How to Build Empathy

Practicing Gratitude in a Time of Uncertainty and Unrest

March 23, 2020

With an international crisis upon us, many are grasping to regain a sense of control—or at least feel hopeful that this pandemic shall pass sooner rather than later. Although the enormous impact of the coronavirus continues to grow and will be felt for months ahead, there are things that we can control in these times of uncertainty and increased anxiousness.

The first and biggest one is our response. We can choose to quiet our fearful thoughts and emotions. This act alone may seem small, especially when you may be cooped up, have a business whose doors have closed, or you're watching [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence

Why People Pleasers Desperately Need Healthy Boundaries

March 05, 2020

Years ago, a woman came to me and told me that she had a bad habit of saying “yes” when she really wanted to say “no.” At the end of the day, she felt exhausted. She seethed with resentment because there was never any energy or time left over for what was important to her. Even when she was maxed to the hilt, she'd take on more and do just one more favor for a friend. Then the next day started all over again with the same recipe for unhappiness. She'd had enough of being a people pleaser. She asked me: What can I do to regain my life?

I congratulated her on her growing self-awareness, and [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence

How to Not Be a People Pleaser and Stop Seeking Approval

January 14, 2020

People pleasing is a habit for many; it was a way of life for me. Then one evening, I was brainstorming topics for a school paper with my daughter. It's enjoyable generating ideas; I love collaborative ventures. However, she quickly torpedoed my ideas for one reason or another. After a while, I started feeling disheartened and said to her, “If all my suggestions get rejected, what’s the point of me giving ideas?” What she said next turned my world inside out.

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence

The 3 Types of Empathy Explained: Part III, Compassionate Empathy

January 09, 2020

The adage, “think with your head, not with your heart,” would make you think that emotional empathy (Part I of this series) and cognitive empathy (Part II of this series) cannot coexist. Luckily, that’s not true! When the heart and mind meet in the middle, the third type of empathy comes alive—Compassionate Empathy.

Compassionate empathy is the antithesis of knee-jerk reactions and it is often the ideal response to challenging situations as this skill blends intellect, emotion, and action by considering the whole person. By developing compassionate empathy, you’ll go beyond a simple [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence, How to Build Empathy

The 3 Types of Empathy Explained: Part II, Cognitive Empathy

January 07, 2020

Welcome to the second part of the in-depth series on the types of empathy. In Part 1, you learned about Emotional Empathy. Now, it’s time to explore Cognitive Empathy. In the next blog, we’ll cover Compassionate Empathy.

To begin, think about all the people in your life. Is there someone you turn to when you need a solution to a problem? Someone who can cut through your emotional mess and help you formulate a plan of action?

These go-to problem-solvers often rely on cognitive empathy to make sense of other people’s struggles. Cognitive empathy is a characteristic of emotional intelligence [...]

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