Blame: A Lazy Response to Avoid Responsibility

September 26, 2020

We are all too familiar with the blame game. When we’re upset or exasperated in life, blaming our spouse, child, friend, or boss is an easy route to relief. You know the drill: “If you wouldn’t procrastinate fixing things around the house, then I wouldn’t nag.” Or if you weren’t so sensitive, we could discuss things calmer.” And sometimes a person moves to name-calling: “You’re so frustrating or selfish or hurtful or ….” In the moment, we feel a release of pent-up energy and uncomfortable emotions. But the thing is, I’ve never heard anyone say they enjoy being blamed or that they liked [...]

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Self-Care Is Foundational to a Healthy and Happy Life

August 18, 2020

Self-care has many definitions. Just as people are unique and have different preferences and desires, defining self-care for ourselves is also unique. Self-nurturance is about being aware of our own needs, paying attention to and actively choosing to nurture our needs consistently. It's vital to respond to our ever-changing lives, moment-by-moment, by caring for ourselves. Being our best in all aspects of mind, body, and spirit is crucial to our health and well-being.

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How to Create a Digital Vision Board

August 11, 2020

Throughout the COVID-19 pandemic, so many of us have been longing to go back to normal. However, what would be more helpful is examining which parts of “normal” are worth going back to.

Now is the perfect time to examine what parts of our lives are no longer serving us—and create a reality that supports our goals, visions, and dreams.

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Why Is Mindfulness Important? And 3 Simple Practices

June 18, 2020

If you’re learning about mindfulness, perhaps you’re curious whether mindful living will improve the quality of your life. So why is mindfulness important, and does it make a difference? There still may be many misconceptions about mindfulness, such as it’s a Buddhist practice, or it requires sitting in a lotus position for hours. Regardless, it is becoming more widely accepted—and for good reason.

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Searching for Inner Peace? 5 Ways to Love Yourself

June 13, 2020

If you’re looking for love outside yourself, you’ll be looking for a very long time. Feeling and experiencing love is dependent on how much we love and accept ourselves. And inner peace and a sense of well-being are by-products of the quality of your self-love.

So why do so many people wrestle with harsh, critical self-talk and self-loathing? And is it possible to achieve lasting inner peace, or is it only a pipe dream?

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Men and Empathy—Are They a Lost Cause?

June 01, 2020

Empathy and Men vs. Women: A Common Scenario

Recently, a couple came in for a marriage coaching because they were stuck in a rut. Whenever she was upset about something, she would seek emotional support from him. Instead of empathy or even reflective listening, he would cut her off and suggest a bevy of ways to solve her problem. She would get more upset as a result because she didn’t feel understood. “Why can’t you just be there for me?” she’d ask.

In our session together, he explained that he felt like he would be validating her “unproductive” behavior (i.e., being emotional without [...]

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Teachers Rise to the Challenges of Emergency Distance Education

May 05, 2020

As schools across the nation from Pre-K to Doctoral work have moved to online platform schools, teachers, students, and families alike are struggling to deal with the transition. As a Middle School Teacher, I have struggled with the transition from Brick-and-Mortar School Teacher to Coming to You from My Living Room Teacher.

The most critical concept that has helped me with this transition has been learning the phrase Emergency Distance Education (EDE). It has a few variations including Emergency Remote Learning and Emergency Remote Education.

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I'm so emotional! Is something wrong with me?

May 02, 2020

Are your emotions running your life? Does worry keep you up at night? Do you ever say to yourself, "Why am I so emotional?" Or does your partner say to you, "Stop being so emotional!" or "Why do you have to be so sensitive?" 

All of these described me years ago. I had little to no control of my emotions and the slightest provocation incited tears. I even remember my now-grown son teasing me because I cried at Bambi. Every day, a haunting doubt kept eating at me: "Is there something wrong with me?"

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Infuse Your Morning Routine with These Uplifting Habits

April 14, 2020

When life is full of uncertainty, what suffers most is your routine. With schools closed, sporting and social events canceled, and work now transferred to your home office; everything is topsy turvy. It's time to readjust and create new routines that support you during this unexpected cycle.

Routines can make us more efficient, reduce our stress level, and benefit our overall mental and physical health. With the coronavirus affecting people on a global scale, we've had to adapt to a new lifestyle that we didn’t see coming and definitely didn’t ask for. Whether you live by yourself [...]

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Shining through the Chaos:  Resiliency and Greatness!

April 08, 2020

There's no avoiding the unprecedented event of COVID-19 and the havoc that the virus is creating in our lives, businesses, and the world. It is disrupting our routines, leveling our way of life, depleting our financial well-being, and challenging us in ways we've never known before.

One moment we may think we're doing pretty good (no matter how fleeting); maybe we even feel at times confident that we'll make it through okay. Then the next minute, we're anxious, watching the unfoldment of a viral tsunami that no one understands entirely nor has a clue as to where it will take us.

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