How to Teach Your Child Emotional Regulation

July 29, 2021

When my son was around nine, I moved in with my current husband. His two kids were with us two days a week and every other weekend. My son, who was living with his dad, was with us on the corresponding weekends. He loved his stepbrother dearly; they were instant and close friends from the start.

I still don't know what prompted it, but one day they got into an altercation, and my son stomped on his stepbrother’s neck. I was in shock and disbelief. My emotions raged, every cell on high alert. Once I knew my stepson was ok, I swept my son outside and around the block for a walk. Again, I was [...]

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How to Set Firm, Loving, and Healthy Boundaries with Family

June 29, 2021

With many families, unfortunately, a lack of boundaries is the norm. In many cases, these types of families are idealized as “tight-knit” in television shows and movies. But an overbearing mother insinuating that it’s time to provide her with grandchildren, or a sibling who wants to spend all your free time together (and gets upset when you go out with friends), can be more than characters on-screen. For many people, it is their reality, and disrespected boundaries strain relationships.

All familial relationships can be challenging at times, but a lack of boundaries can make them even [...]

Posted in Communication & Interpersonal Skills, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Stop Gossip When a Person Is Talking Bad About Someone with These Simple Steps

May 26, 2021

Years ago, when a friend and I would meet for lunch, somehow, it always turned into a meal of complaints or a conversation orbiting around the critique of others. I’d walk away from the luncheon splattered with the emotional mud of gossip, feeling disappointed and reticent to get together in the future. It could be months before we got together again, partly because of the heavy feeling in my heart.

However, I ached for relationships that challenged me to be my best self and held me accountable to be kind and loving. To create trustworthy relationships that were strong enough to handle [...]

Posted in Communication & Interpersonal Skills, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Life Hacks to Replace Feeling Stuffers with Emotional Intelligence

May 20, 2021

How many of you grew up encouraged to freely express your emotions when you were a child? What happened when you got angry? Or sad? Growing up in a family where the whole spectrum of emotions was accepted, encouraged, and explored is rare, yet it’s one way that children develop emotional intelligence. Most of us grew up with a double standard where it wasn’t okay for us to express our challenging emotions, yet our parents sometimes reacted out of tiredness or stress.

 

Do you remember seeing your mother cry when you were young? I do. I remember asking my mom what was wrong as she [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, Most Popular

How to Apply Emotional, Cognitive, and Compassionate Empathy

March 03, 2021

Empathy is not one-size-fits-all. Different types of empathy are appropriate for different people, relationships, and circumstances.

If you are struggling to express empathy, your problem might not be that you aren't an empathetic person—it could be that you're accessing a type of empathy that doesn't come naturally to you or that the type of empathy you're expressing isn't appropriate for the situation at hand.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, How to Build Empathy

What Is Good About People-Pleasers?

February 04, 2021

A client asked me recently, “What’s wrong with pleasing people? Isn’t it kind to please others?” This question inspired me to write about the topic from a new perspective. After all, there is a lot written about the dark side of being a people-pleaser and how habitually pleasing others can deplete personal power and destroy relationships. If you’re a people-pleaser, this can be disheartening.

Luckily, there’s also a light side to being a people-pleaser, one which can help provide a happy life with great fulfillment. In fact, once people-pleasers discover how to stop giving themselves up [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Do You Want a Happy Relationship? Develop Healthy Boundaries

January 30, 2021

Whether you’ve been with your partner for six months or married for ten years, poor boundaries create dependency and unhappy couples. If you want to develop a healthy and happy relationship, you must each have healthy personal boundaries.

 

Often, we consider boundaries to be something that pushes people away, or we’re afraid that the other person will react negatively or feel hurt. However, healthy boundaries in relationships are a prerequisite to happiness. They define us and what is essential in our lives. Without them, there is too much room for drama. Boundaries help to create a  [...]

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

How to Improve Emotional Intelligence in 3 Simple Steps

January 14, 2021

2020 has (finally) concluded—and it's been a doozy, hasn't it? We may not have been able to control the unexpected events of COVID, but hopefully, you were still able to achieve some of the goals you set for yourself at the beginning of last year.

As the new year is in its infancy, people naturally think about goal setting. Setting and writing down goals with a plan to achieve them has been shown to increase the likelihood of their attainment. Historically, the most popular New Year's resolutions have had to do with exercise and dieting. But instead of only improving your physical fitness [...]

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Boundaries Protect and Support Your Blended Family

December 16, 2020

When my husband and I got together, children were brought into my life for the first time. Once married, the adjustment to living and interacting with two children was a steep learning curve for me. Navigating daily life together, communicating between households, and adapting to different routines all required constant adjustment, and still does nearly four years later. It was evident very quickly that boundaries were necessary for our blended family dynamic. Healthy boundaries shaped the development of my marriage, my interactions with the children, and our relationship with the [...]

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Inner Peace Requires You to Be Present with Self-Compassion

December 11, 2020

“Gotta pick up the kids from school.” “Gotta get this report done by tomorrow.” “Gotta shop for dinner.” “Gotta pay the bills!” “Gotta get to the gym and lose this extra weight.” Gotta, gotta, gotta.

A lack of work-life balance and the need to get somewhere are themes I hear frequently. We are seekers. And personal transformation is high on the list for many. Yet, we are often unaware that we are reaching for something, even if it's self-growth. While ignoring what is happening right now within ourselves and around us, the present moment evades us.

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

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