How to Apply Emotional, Cognitive, and Compassionate Empathy

March 03, 2021

Empathy is not one-size-fits-all. Different types of empathy are appropriate for different people, relationships, and circumstances.

If you are struggling to express empathy, your problem might not be that you aren't an empathetic person—it could be that you're accessing a type of empathy that doesn't come naturally to you or that the type of empathy you're expressing isn't appropriate for the situation at hand.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, How to Build Empathy

What Is Good About People-Pleasers?

February 04, 2021

A client asked me recently, “What’s wrong with pleasing people? Isn’t it kind to please others?” This question inspired me to write about the topic from a new perspective. After all, there is a lot written about the dark side of being a people-pleaser and how habitually pleasing others can deplete personal power and destroy relationships. If you’re a people-pleaser, this can be disheartening.

Luckily, there’s also a light side to being a people-pleaser, one which can help provide a happy life with great fulfillment. In fact, once people-pleasers discover how to stop giving themselves up [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Do You Want a Happy Relationship? Develop Healthy Boundaries

January 30, 2021

Whether you’ve been with your partner for six months or married for ten years, poor boundaries create dependency and unhappy couples. If you want to develop a healthy and happy relationship, you must each have healthy personal boundaries.

 

Often, we consider boundaries to be something that pushes people away, or we’re afraid that the other person will react negatively or feel hurt. However, healthy boundaries in relationships are a prerequisite to happiness. They define us and what is essential in our lives. Without them, there is too much room for drama. Boundaries help to create a  [...]

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Why Work-Life Balance Isn't the Best Solution

January 26, 2021

Work-life balance has become a bit of a buzz phrase, especially among mompreneurs. An ideal that is often sought after and discussed as missing from our lives. Seeking to find a balance between competing desires and responsibilities personally and professionally can be daunting.

A start of a new year often means New Year’s resolutions. A strong desire for work-life balance is evident in the many blogs on the subject. More exercise or improving fitness, pursuing a career ambition, taking up a new hobby, and spending more time with family are frequently among the most popular resolutions— [...]

Posted in Business and Leadership, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

How to Improve Emotional Intelligence in 3 Simple Steps

January 14, 2021

We may not have been able to control the unexpected events of the pandemic, but hopefully, you were still able to achieve some of the goals you set for yourself.

At the beginning of each new year, people naturally think about goal setting. Setting and writing down goals with a plan to achieve them has been shown to increase the likelihood of their attainment. Historically, the most popular New Year's resolutions have had to do with exercise and dieting. But instead of only improving your physical fitness this year, why not set a goal to improve your emotional fitness?

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Boundaries Protect and Support Your Blended Family

December 16, 2020

When my husband and I got together, children were brought into my life for the first time. Once married, the adjustment to living and interacting with two children was a steep learning curve for me. Navigating daily life together, communicating between households, and adapting to different routines all required constant adjustment, and still does nearly four years later. It was evident very quickly that boundaries were necessary for our blended family dynamic. Healthy boundaries shaped the development of my marriage, my interactions with the children, and our relationship with the [...]

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Inner Peace Requires You to Be Present with Self-Compassion

December 11, 2020

“Gotta pick up the kids from school.” “Gotta get this report done by tomorrow.” “Gotta shop for dinner.” “Gotta pay the bills!” “Gotta get to the gym and lose this extra weight.” Gotta, gotta, gotta.

A lack of work-life balance and the need to get somewhere are themes I hear frequently. We are seekers. And personal transformation is high on the list for many. Yet, we are often unaware that we are reaching for something, even if it's self-growth. While ignoring what is happening right now within ourselves and around us, the present moment evades us.

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

An Unexpected Place to Discover Love and Resilience

November 12, 2020

Resilience is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from hardship or difficulties. We've all known difficulties. However, it is how we respond to what happens to us that determines how we greet the future. It is what we make our experiences mean that influence our lives. It's our response to adversity, not the experience itself, that determines how our life story evolves.

Without resiliency, life's hardships weigh us down, and we become an unbending tree that breaks off in the high winds of a storm.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Why You Need to Replace People-Pleasing with Kindness

October 01, 2020

Most people think when they please someone, their action is kind. Yes, their action may impact others positively. It feels good for a person to do things for us, to help us out in a time of need, to volunteer on a committee, or watch our kids for a couple of hours. However, if this act of supposed kindness is wrong or even hurtful to the giver, it’s not kindness. It’s people-pleasing. People-pleasing is a habit that undermines authentic connection in relationships and cuts the pleaser off from their true self, limiting individual potential. Each of us needs to set boundaries to be at our [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Blame: A Lazy Response to Avoid Responsibility

September 26, 2020

We are all too familiar with the blame game. When we’re upset or exasperated in life, blaming our spouse, child, friend, or boss is an easy route to relief. You know the drill: “If you wouldn’t procrastinate fixing things around the house, then I wouldn’t nag.” Or if you weren’t so sensitive, we could discuss things calmer.” And sometimes a person moves to name-calling: “You’re so frustrating or selfish or hurtful or ….” In the moment, we feel a release of pent-up energy and uncomfortable emotions. But the thing is, I’ve never heard anyone say they enjoy being blamed or that they liked [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, Emotional Intelligence

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