Is Procrastination Stopping You from Fulfilling Your Dreams?

July 26, 2018

We’ve all done it in some area of our lives or another. You know you need to get “it” done, you watch your time running out, you feel your stress build, and still...you don’t get “it” done. Not until the absolute last minute (if then).

Procrastinating is no stranger. But should you try to make it one?

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Resiliency—the Ability to Bounce Back

July 20, 2018

One beautiful autumn evening, after a full day with clients, I was carrying the groceries through the living room when I noticed my dog's peculiar paw prints on the carpet. In shock, I quickly dumped the bags on a table and walked into our kitchen, which now resembled a toddlers' wading pool.

The floor was covered with an inch of water, and it was rapidly seeping into the dining room carpet. Where the heck was the water coming from? Quickly I ran down to the basement to grab old towels to soak up the water—and was greeted with the horror of another flood, water still gushing from above and [...]

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A Fixed Mindset Versus a Growth Mindset

July 03, 2018

It’s a story that many of us have heard multiple times: the two fighting wolves.

“A fight is going on inside me,” a man said to a boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The boy thought [...]

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How to Develop Resilience, and Why You Should!

June 14, 2018

Grit, resilience and perseverance have become buzzwords of late. From psychologist Angela Duckworth’s impactful interview on NPR to feminist graphic designs—grit and resilience are being recognized as the most important traits for success.

Developing your resilience can be the key to not only success at work, but a well-balanced social, home and family life, as well as your own self-care.

Still, many people spend a lot of time focusing on skills—in school, on job resumes, even in what’s taught to children. While there is nothing wrong with honing skills, the way you wield those skills is [...]

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Loneliness and Hunger—a Complex Relationship

May 29, 2018

Loneliness and hunger—they are two of the most powerful and intertwined natural instincts. These two sensations are powerhouses in the human body and brain, controlling everything from our sleep to libido, productivity, immunity, muscle development, and cognitive abilities.

“Now I know what loneliness is, I think. Momentary loneliness, anyway. It comes from a vague core of the self like a disease of the blood, dispersed throughout the body so that one cannot locate the matrix, the spot of contagion.”  ― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

This quote form Plath hits [...]

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Why Being a People Pleaser Damages Relationships—and What to Do About It

May 03, 2018

Are you a people pleaser? I was! In fact, growing up, I majored in pleasing others. I honestly believed as a child and young adult that if people didn’t need me, they wouldn’t want me. So I worked at being indispensable. My pleaser habit was so deeply rooted that I didn’t know I was giving up myself on a regular basis, in every relationship at home and work. My pattern of over-giving had great benefits—or so I thought.

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Eliminate Clutter and Tackle that Spring Clean-Up for Good

April 12, 2018

A clean house or office, free from clutter and perfectly organized—isn’t that the dream?

There are thousands of resources out there with techniques for organizing, tips for decluttering, or a process for cleaning your closet. The list runs the gamut from “150+ Things to Throw Away Today” to “30 Ways to Instantly Declutter” and “The 4-Pile Strategy for Simplifying Your Closet.”

I have another idea: clutter is a mindset.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, Habits for Health

How to Find Inner Peace by Resolving Conflicting Feelings

March 13, 2018

Recently I was coaching a married couple who were having difficulty working things out. They brought up one particularly upsetting event that was very uncomfortable for them both. The wife was being honored at an awards ceremony for her achievements at work. A week before the ceremony, the husband agreed to go and even told her how proud he would be to stand by her side. She was very pleased that he would accompany her, and she thought they were both looking forward to the event.

But as they were getting dressed for the ceremony, the husband started bemoaning the fact that they had to go [...]

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The Spaces in Between Are Just as Important

February 27, 2018

We are essentially just moving our bodies around in space. I remind my yoga students that from time to time, not to diminish the importance of yoga to them or to make it seem trivial. In fact, operating in space is exactly the opposite.

Open space is, in my mind, incredibly under-appreciated. So often we spend our days rushing through space, whether that’s hurtling through traffic from point A to B in our car or hastening to complete the next bullet point on our never-ending to-do list.

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Coping Strategies When Your Head and Heart Disagree

January 06, 2018

Pop Quiz: How Do You Cope?

What do you do when you have everything you want and need, but you still don’t feel happy? You have satisfying work; your finances support you; you have a strong home life...but it still feels like something is missing for true happiness. What are your coping strategies?

Do you shut down? Do you avoid your feelings? Do you rev up? If you want to exit the conversation the second I ask you if you feel fulfilled...that’s probably a clue.

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