How to Stop Complaining: An Action Plan to Happiness

February 22, 2020

Have you ever had a friend or co-worker fill the air with complaints? Do you catch yourself complaining too much? Or has negative thinking become a bad habit?

Life can feel like we're scrambling to escape an avalanche of demands and a series of endless to-do lists. And when we're stressed, it's easy to find fault or pinpoint what's wrong, but if we get in the habit of complaining, it starts to create a dark cloud around us and our lives. And did you know that complaints wire our brains to favor negativity and negative self-talk, which then increases the likelihood of more of the same?

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Keys to Healthy Love and a Happy Relationship

February 10, 2020

Valentine's Day is a perfect opportunity to revel in our love of one another. The celebration itself can create a rekindling of the fires of loving our partner.

You owe it to yourself to flex the muscles required to create lasting happiness. Strengthening your relationship by applying love's keys are just as important as planning your wedding. Your honeymoon doesn’t have to last only for a season!

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships

The Power of Habit—One Habit that Can Transform Your Life!

February 06, 2020

All of us have habits. We speak of good habits and bad habits, but most often we associate habits with something negative. (Think smoking, watching too much TV, unhealthy snacking between meals, yelling at the kids...) The truth is that anything we do repeatedly—whether negative or positive, unhealthy or healthy—becomes a habit. Isn't it time to use positive, healthy habits to create the life you want? But how long does it take to break a habit?

The answer to this question varies and depends on who you ask. Breaking bad habits or forming healthy habits can depend on several elements and [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Cool and Unique Valentine's Day Gift Ideas of 2020

January 28, 2020

Are you ready to buy the perfect gift for your special person, but unsure where to start? When it comes to Valentine’s Day, “getting it right” is a must.

Are you tired of the typical and expected flowers and chocolate? If so, it’s time to get creative. Use the information here to find the perfect gift for your special person.

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships

What Is Resiliency and Why Parents Need It!

January 27, 2020

When my son was only two, he and I had just picked up a vanilla sponge cake from the bakery, a special order for a friend’s surprise birthday party. I carefully tucked the square white box on the floor between the two front seats of our family minivan. Parking in our driveway, I unhooked the quick-release on my son’s car seat so he could climb down, and I got out of the van to help him out.

Opening the sliding door, I was shocked to find him sitting proudly on the cake box with a big grin on his face. With his adorable toddler sweetness, he squealed, “It’s a perfect size seat for me, Mom!” [...]

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Are You a People Pleaser Seeking Approval?

January 14, 2020

People pleasing was a way of life for me. Pleasing others convinced me that I was a kind and giving person. Then one evening, I was brainstorming with my daughter topics for a school paper. I loved helping and enjoyed brainstorming, but as quickly as my ideas popped out of my mouth, she shot them down for one reason or another. After a few minutes of feeling rejected, I said to her, “If every idea I suggest meets with rejection, what’s the point of me giving ideas?” Her reply: “Do you only give ideas to get approval?”

Ouch! This little interchange impacted me deeply. My daughter’s poignant [...]

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The 3 Types of Empathy Explained: Part III, Compassionate Empathy

January 09, 2020

The adage, “think with your head, not with your heart,” would make you think that emotional empathy (Part I of this series) and cognitive empathy (Part II of this series) cannot coexist. Luckily, that’s not true! When the heart and mind meet in the middle, the third type of empathy comes alive—Compassionate Empathy.

Compassionate empathy is the antithesis of knee-jerk reactions and it is often the ideal response to challenging situations as this skill blends intellect, emotion, and action by considering the whole person. By developing compassionate empathy, you’ll go beyond a simple [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence, How to Build Empathy

The 3 Types of Empathy Explained: Part II, Cognitive Empathy

January 07, 2020

Welcome to the second part of the in-depth series on the types of empathy. In Part 1, you learned about Emotional Empathy. Now, it’s time to explore Cognitive Empathy. In the next blog, we’ll cover Compassionate Empathy.

To begin, think about all the people in your life. Is there someone you turn to when you need a solution to a problem? Someone who can cut through your emotional mess and help you formulate a plan of action?

These go-to problem-solvers often rely on cognitive empathy to make sense of other people’s struggles. Cognitive empathy is a characteristic of emotional intelligence [...]

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The 3 Types of Empathy Explained: Part I, Emotional Empathy

January 04, 2020

“Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another and feeling with the heart of another.” ~Alfred Alder

You may have heard Alder’s description of empathy before, but did you know there are three types of empathy? That’s right! There’s Emotional Empathy, Compassionate Empathy, and Cognitive Empathy, and each one has its uses. This series of posts will explore each type of empathy in depth so you can better recognize and utilize them.

Let’s begin with Emotional Empathy. When someone uses the quote above or calls themselves an “empath,” they’re typically [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence, How to Build Empathy

What Happens in Your Brain When You Fail?

January 02, 2020

“You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all—in which case, you fail by default.” ~ J.K. Rowling

At one stage or another, we have all experienced failure. It often invokes a negative emotion which connotes feelings and ideas of defeat, frustration, and disappointment. Failure is subjective and it really depends on what you classify as failing. Most likely, your idea of failure may vary greatly from your parents, your [...]

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