What’s All the Fuss about Self-Care?

January 21, 2019

Recently, I was having a really rough time functioning. I was struggling due to higher than normal family conflict, work stress, and sleep deprivation. We even missed paying some bills, which is so unusual. I wasn’t drinking water or eating nutritious food, and I was certainly not getting any exercise, which I love.  

At some point during this tough time, I ran into a friend who is a mental health professional, and after I vented a bit, she said, “You need to do something for you today.”

I thought, “Hmmm, she’s talking about self-care, but WHAT exactly does that even mean to me right now, [...]

Posted in Habits for Health

You Create the Quality of Your Relationship

January 13, 2019
My friends all know that I would rather go without eating than eat fast food. It's not that an occasional meal at Burger King is going to give you anything but indigestion, but if you make a habit of it, your health and quality of life can decline rapidly.

Relationship works that way, too. Are you looking for a drive-through experience, or a rich, meaningful relationship to savor?

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships

Why It's Critical to Understand Your Child's Temperament

December 29, 2018

Temperament is one of the most underestimated influences in a child’s life. Many times, a difficult temperament trait in a child can be the primary driving force of misbehavior in children. Much of the challenges in child raising often lead back to temperament qualities, such as low adaption or high emotional intensity.

Temperament is a lot like looking into a kaleidoscope. Children's temperament traits come in a multitude of colors and designs along with countless hues and intensities. Turn the dial of a kaleidoscope slightly and everything dramatically changes. So it is with temperament. [...]

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting

The Business Strategy of Saying “No”

December 17, 2018

One of the greatest challenges of business is knowing when not to follow an idea. A mistake many business owners make—even large companies—is trying to do too much at one time.

When was the last time as a business owner or executive, you were able to follow an initiative through to its completion without at least a few of the following challenges?
  • – new ventures devouring too much time and money
  • – initiatives and projects screaming for attention – a million little things taking you off track – pet projects that you clung to for far too long
  • – too many great ideas competing for funds
  • – [...]

Posted in Business and Leadership

Quickly Avoid Power Struggles with Children Using Empathy

December 06, 2018

Sometimes I get wildly angry at screens—whether an Xbox or TV—and my children’s inability to end their session the second I ask them. If I wasn't so frugally and environmentally driven, I might be tempted to throw screens out of moving vehicles and second story windows.

But then, my empathy kicks in; sometimes faster than other times. I remember what it’s like to be deeply immersed in something and suddenly asked to stop. If I’m engrossed in reading a book, texting a friend, writing a letter, or brushing my teeth, it’s unlikely that I’ll stop doing the activity at the exact moment I am [...]

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting

Apathy Is the Enemy of Empathy

November 27, 2018

Whether it's a friend, spouse, or a co-worker, the unknown of another's emotions can make us very uneasy even if we desire to support the person. Sometimes it's just easier to remain on our own island and ensure safety and predictability. 

Do you steer away from those "soft" feelings because they might take you places you are unprepared to go?

Do others’ reactions and charged emotions frighten you? 

Are you concerned that you'll be sucked into an abyss of someone else's pain? After all, some days we are barely dealing with life's challenges ourselves.

At a time with much uncertainty and [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Taming the Flood of Contradictions in a Wedding

November 13, 2018

It is very apparent to everyone that weddings are quite a dichotomy—filled with contradictions.

Beginnings and endings. Expected extravagance clashing with necessary budgets. The anticipation of the perfect day colliding with unknowns and fears. The exhilaration of love and joy contrasted by forgotten details, letdowns, and disappointments. The elevated happiness and the greatest stress all tied up into one day.

Posted in Intentional Weddings & Wedding Planning

Teens and Screens: Does Your Child Have Screen Addiction?

November 12, 2018

Internet Addiction, Texting Addiction, Screen Addiction, and Gaming Addiction are all phrases we hear in modern times but are they really a thing? Well, yes they are and no they are not. What?! Keep on reading to see why this is not a clear-cut answer.

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting

How Emotional Resilience Can Help You Cultivate Happiness

November 01, 2018

For many, stress has a hair-trigger. Change and unexpected letdowns are met with emotional over-reactions, and minor criticisms can ruin entire days. The antidote to this turmoil is emotional resilience, an element of emotional intelligence that allows one to adapt to and recover from stress and negativity. The good news is that you can actively improve your emotional resilience and noticeably increase your happiness.

Posted in Boost Your Emotional Intelligence

Why Selfie Care Is Vital for Parents

October 30, 2018

Why have selfies become a trend? And do we take a selfie only when we look our best? Probably not during a fight with your spouse or after a day of power struggles with your toddler or teen. 

Could the preoccupation with Facebook along with snapping selfies and posting pictures on Snapchat be a sign of how invisible we feel to ourselves? Maybe, maybe not. But there is a form of invisibility to ourselves that often goes unnoticed—a lack of self-care.

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting