Social Media Is Social Currency for Teens

October 04, 2018

The term "social media" did not even exist in mainstream culture when I had my first son in 2004. My mother and I still wrote snail-mail and email letters back and forth and talked on the phone. That is how I kept in contact with all my out-of-town loved ones, and as for my in-town peeps, it was face-to-face get-togethers and phone calls with occasional emails to coordinate plans that involved more than a few of us.Going back a bit further, the social currency for young people in my era was notes written during class and passed in the halls, phone calls, and chat gatherings in the corners [...]

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting

Screens and Teens—Why Do Teens Love Screens So Much?

October 01, 2018

There is endless content online (ironic isn’t it!?!) about screens, internet use, gaming, safety, addiction, sleep deprivation, and how to set limits. So much content that a person (ME!) can spend hours on a screen just learning about how to deal with screens, so why write more?

At Heartmanity, we want to approach screens, tech, safety, limits, and the like through the understanding of emotional needs, relationships, empathy, compassion, brain science, and love, which are not common approaches used in most available content. So, that being said, let’s look at why teens love screens so much.

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting

"Intention, Not Tension"

September 28, 2018

With all the daily ups and downs and the moment-by-moment challenges that arise in our lives, it's easy to forget that we have a say in how we feel. We have the ability to choose our response no matter what happens (and things do happen). We can create our experience in each moment, even when it doesn’t feel like we have any choice at all.

How do we do this? By being mindful of our reactions and self-talk. At any moment, we can set our reset button, shifting tension to a conscious intention. Perhaps our intention is to remain calm even when things go wrong. These mini decisions determine [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Learn to Recognize and Allow Yourself to Feel Your Emotions

September 08, 2018

Getting in touch with one’s feelings is not that easy for most of us. For years, we have been taught to suppress and hide certain feelings. For instance, when we are feeling down and blue, we are often told to put on a “brave face” and smile, even though we know we are hurting inside.

Over time, it can become more difficult to express what we are truly feeling.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence

How to Control and Release Anger Without Lashing Out

August 28, 2018

Everyone gets angry at some point in their lives. Even our children will get angry when something is not going their way or they get frustrated. Anger, in itself, is often considered a “bad” emotion that we have been taught to suppress and push aside. After all, if we let anger get the best of us, our reactions can lead to negative consequences or cause uncomfortable circumstances for ourselves or others.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence

How to Understand and Overcome Jealousy

August 23, 2018

Jealousy is a misunderstood and harshly judged emotion. Who likes to admit to jealousy? And when was the last relationship you heard about that relished their husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend being jealous? Jealousy can destroy relationships and eat away at us from the inside out. However, at one time or another, most people feel its sting.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Why Emotionally Intelligence Is Crucial in Business Today

August 16, 2018

Whether you consider yourself an entrepreneur, a business owner, or a CEO, there are few things more valuable in business than emotional intelligence. What might come to mind are emotions and empathy but what many people often don't realize is that emotional intelligence (also called EQ) includes scores of competencies: problem-solving, conflict resolution, forecast thinking, resiliency, visionary leadership, prioritizing, and the ability to respond instead of reacting, to name only a few.

Posted in Business and Leadership

Managing Impulsive and Compulsive Actions through Emotional Intelligence

August 07, 2018

Impulsive and compulsive actions are those types of behaviors where we do not think through the actual consequences. Rather, we simply react quickly to a current situation without taking the time to consider the actual short-term and long-term consequences of our actions.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence, Self-Compassion, How to Be Your Own Life Coach

Why Helicopter Parents Stunt a Child's Self-Reliance

August 04, 2018

Parenting is an elaborate and complex job that changes with each age as a child develops. Since our primary responsibility is to keep our children safe while providing a stable home, it’s understandable how involved—even overprotective—parents can become. However, the older a child gets, the less control we have as parents. (Every parent that has given their teenager the keys to the family car knows what I mean!) Therefore, the need for children and teens to make wise decisions is a great reason to help them build strong self-reliance and emotional intelligence.

Most parents have good [...]

Posted in Perfectly Imperfect Parenting, Most Popular

Is It Better to Feel or Flee Emotions?

August 02, 2018

From the time we are children, we are taught appropriate emotional responses. Depending on how you were reared, you may have been taught to suppress “negative or bad” emotions and hide these away. For instance, boys are often taught they should not cry in front of others, as this is a sign of weakness, while girls are taught it’s okay to cry anywhere they want, yet, if they get angry, they should suppress this inappropriate emotion.

On the other hand, concerning good emotions, we are taught to embrace these and experience them to the fullest. Happiness, joy, and pleasure are all types of [...]

Posted in Self-Compassion, Emotional Intelligence, Business and Leadership

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