7 Ways to Infuse Love into Your Marriage

March 20, 2018

The love is there—it just might have ebbed to the fringes a bit.

It happens. Not just after a “honeymoon” phase, the literal honeymoon, the first child or the third, but possibly throughout it all. The feeling of love in a marriage can naturally wax and wane.

Here are seven ways to welcome it back to the heart of your relationship.

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships

Why We Think Teenage Rebellion Is Normal

March 16, 2018

When I was teaching a parenting class a few years ago, a mother told the story of the time her son came home from kindergarten with green hair. She went ballistic as soon as she saw him. When I asked what triggered her anger, she replied, "All I could see was a teenager standing there with green hair, tattoos, a ring in his nose, and a chain belt hanging from his waist." Her mind had catapulted her into some imaginary future scene, and her fear set off a chain reaction. In fact, the green hair was left over from a Saint Patrick's Day celebration at school. The teachers had dyed the [...]

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How to Find Inner Peace by Resolving Conflicting Feelings

March 13, 2018

Recently I was coaching a married couple who were having difficulty working things out. They brought up one particularly upsetting event that was very uncomfortable for them both. The wife was being honored at an awards ceremony for her achievements at work. A week before the ceremony, the husband agreed to go and even told her how proud he would be to stand by her side. She was very pleased that he would accompany her, and she thought they were both looking forward to the event.

But as they were getting dressed for the ceremony, the husband started bemoaning the fact that they had to go [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

How to Handle Distracting Technology at Home

March 01, 2018

You are now competing with pixels for the attention of nearly everyone you know. And you are probably losing.  

Technology addiction, screen time, the black hole of the internet, Reddit and the endless scroll of Instagram—not to mention those notifications every time an email slides in...the widespread influence of tech is a thing of daily life for most American families. There are more ways for screens to suck people in than there are people to be enticed.

The other day, my dog got so caught up in a Game of Thrones episode that she wouldn’t come when I called (there were wolves on the [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

The Spaces in Between Are Just as Important

February 27, 2018

We are essentially just moving our bodies around in space. I remind my yoga students that from time to time, not to diminish the importance of yoga to them or to make it seem trivial. In fact, operating in space is exactly the opposite.

Open space is, in my mind, incredibly under-appreciated. So often we spend our days rushing through space, whether that’s hurtling through traffic from point A to B in our car or hastening to complete the next bullet point on our never-ending to-do list.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

How to Be an Authentic Leader

February 22, 2018

“Great things in business are never done by one person.”

In 2003—the year Apple launched the iTunes music store—Steve Jobs went on 60 Minutes and explained his view of leadership.

Again and again throughout the history of effective leaders, a similar sentiment is echoed: to be an authentic leader is not to lead the most people, wield the most power, or even achieve the most outcomes. To be an authentic leader lies deeper than those surface measures, in character and emotional intelligence.

Posted in Leadership and Business, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Is a Lack of Empathy Destroying Our Interconnectivity?

February 20, 2018

Day by day, we have more and more ability through technology to stay connected, even globally. But day by day, many of us feel more and more alone. It’s counterintuitive—but the statistics don’t lie. Divorce rates are high and depression is rampant. Among teens, the more screen time they report, the higher their rate of depression. Suicide rates in all age groups are up. Every 12 minutes, someone in the US commits suicide. 

These are not the marks of a genuinely interconnected society. But, we say, we’re so connected! Or are we? Let’s take a closer look at what’s really going on in our [...]

Posted in Communication & Interpersonal Skills, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Love Has No Labels

February 13, 2018

Maybe you’ve seen the images? A white square superimposed over a picture of your friend, mom or coworker, an NFL quarterback, celebrity or news anchor. Inside the box, this phrase: “love has no labels.”

This campaign—though “campaign” can’t really capture its essence—is spreading, and fast.

The motto is simple, as the most powerful revolutionary thoughts tend to be: “Before anything else, we are human.”

Personally, I cannot help but think of the opening to Pride & Prejudice, “It is a truth universally acknowledged that…” It seems painfully simple to say that we are human. Obviously, we [...]

Posted in Communication & Interpersonal Skills, Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Before Wedding Planning, Get Clear About Your Priorities

February 13, 2018

Right after the proposal, everyone wants to see the ring, know the date, ask about the venue. As a newlywed couple, it’s easy to feel like you’re suddenly sliding down a steep slope to “I Do” without a moment to pause.

Swept up by the excitement, Emotional Intelligence tends to get pushed aside. (Related: What is Emotional Intelligence?)

You know when you’ve been staring at a screen too long and you suddenly wake up to your surroundings? Your eyes re-adjust. You realize you’re down some dark rabbit hole of Google or Instagram or whatever. You know that you’ve gone past the point of [...]

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships

Why Companies Fail without Leaders with Emotional Intelligence

January 18, 2018

Leadership requires much more than business smarts. Poor decision-making, breakdowns in communication, knee-jerk reactions to employees, taking credit for another's work or a lack of engagement are a few examples that can be problematic. These behaviors can act as a disease in business and undo even the most prominent companies. What is becoming more and more corroborated is that a leader's success depends not on a business degree but much more heavily on their ability to get along with people, to lead and inspire people. 

Posted in Leadership and Business, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

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