--- title: Heartmanity Blog | Jennifer A. Williams / Heartmanity Founder (6) description: Jennifer, as the Heartmanity Founder, has coached couples for over two decades. With her extensive experience and vast knowledge of emotional intelligence and brain science, Jennifer provides profound insights. She specializes in communication and teaches EQ skills needed to create healthy relationships. Jennifer is happily married and the mother of three grown children who are incredible human beings. 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Topics: Select a topic... All Emotional Intelligence & Fitness Leadership and Business Love, Marriage, and Relationships Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective Communication & Interpersonal Skills Habits for Health Heartmanity Webinars, Classes, and Events Filters ![Jennifer A. Williams / Heartmanity Founder](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hubfs/Jennifer%20Williams022.jpg) ## Jennifer A. Williams / Heartmanity Founder Jennifer, as the Heartmanity Founder, has coached couples for over two decades. With her extensive experience and vast knowledge of emotional intelligence and brain science, Jennifer provides profound insights. She specializes in communication and teaches EQ skills needed to create healthy relationships. Jennifer is happily married and the mother of three grown children who are incredible human beings. ### Recent Posts: ## [*Marriage Advice: Sweat the Small Stuff!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/marriage-advice-sweat-the-small-stuff) September 10, 2019 [![Marriage Advice: Sweat the Small Stuff!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Young-Couple-1126222531_1258x839-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Young-Couple-1126222531_1258x839-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/marriage-advice-sweat-the-small-stuff) You're probably familiar with the popular book, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff.Great little tips for life, letting go of the little things that annoy us or add to our stress. However, when it comes to love and relationship, this advice doesn't hold up! Read on if you want to know why. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes (much longer to practice and master)* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/marriage-advice-sweat-the-small-stuff) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How to Put Vitality Back in Your Relationship!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-put-vitality-back-in-your-relationship) July 06, 2019 [![How to Put Vitality Back in Your Relationship!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Young-couple-kissing-in-summer-sun-light-868751952_2123x1417-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Young-couple-kissing-in-summer-sun-light-868751952_2123x1417-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-put-vitality-back-in-your-relationship) I swung into the grocery store on my way home the other night to grab a box of My/Mo Mochi ice cream. As I reached the freezer section, I stopped as if frozen myself. My eyes gazed down the long aisle with hundreds of choices of frozen desserts: dozens of flavors and brands in every imaginable size and shape. Wow, how common prolific choices have become in stores and in our lives! We live in a culture of instant gratification and continual titillation of our senses. Every moment confronts us with zillions of choices for eating, drinking, working, recreating, and traveling. Let's take the \[...\] [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-put-vitality-back-in-your-relationship) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Conflict in Marriage: How to Communicate with Your Spouse*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/conflict-in-marriage-how-to-communicate-with-your-spouse) June 11, 2019 [![Conflict in Marriage: How to Communicate with Your Spouse](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Couple-talking-in-living-room-with-coffee-527369543_1255x837-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Couple-talking-in-living-room-with-coffee-527369543_1255x837-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/conflict-in-marriage-how-to-communicate-with-your-spouse) In a loving relationship or marriage, there are certain critical keys that open the door to more love. And it is communication in marriage more than anything else that makes or breaks a relationship. We all have a deep need to feel heard and understood. Though this need is vital, it can often interfere with our ability to truly hear our partner, especially at heated moments. After several decades of marriage, I have found that keeping my mouth closed and my ears wide open helps immensely to carve the way to rich and robust communication. [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/conflict-in-marriage-how-to-communicate-with-your-spouse) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Get More Love and Fun in Your Marriage Right Now*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/get-more-love-and-fun-in-your-marriage-right-now) May 23, 2019 [![Get More Love and Fun in Your Marriage Right Now](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Give-me-that-remote-control!-520623172_2122x1416-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Give-me-that-remote-control!-520623172_2122x1416-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/get-more-love-and-fun-in-your-marriage-right-now) Love and marriage. Leverage is probably not something that you think about when you're desiring a healthy and strong marriage. You are more likely to want better communication, deeper intimacy, and "love made visible." There are many ways to build a loving relationship, yet there are certain things that consistently nurture love. It's not in the big strokes, but in the daily little actions. The best marriage advice is to leverage the small things. [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/get-more-love-and-fun-in-your-marriage-right-now) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*The Challenge of Love and Marriage*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-challenge-of-love-and-marriage) April 18, 2019 [![The Challenge of Love and Marriage](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Two%20glasses_celebrating%20dolomites.jpg?width=600&name=Two%20glasses_celebrating%20dolomites.jpg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-challenge-of-love-and-marriage) Relationships greet us with many challenges, big and small. Love and marriage don't come with a handbook, and sometimes all we know is what we learned growing up. As a relationship coach, I often hear the same complaints repeatedly: "I don't feel heard by my partner." or "I've fallen out of love." or "My partner feels more like a roommate." So when I passed a truck on the interstate with the license plate EZ2LOVE, my mind tossed this saying around like a fresh salad with big wooden tongs. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-challenge-of-love-and-marriage) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Love Is Sometimes Inconvenient!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/love-is-sometimes-inconvenient) February 26, 2019 [![Love Is Sometimes Inconvenient!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/serious-young-french-couple-looking-pensive-in-opposite-directions-635980592_2123x1417.jpeg?width=600&name=serious-young-french-couple-looking-pensive-in-opposite-directions-635980592_2123x1417.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/love-is-sometimes-inconvenient) It’s common to have unrealistic and romantic ideas about love, relationships, and marriage. We grow up with a solid diet of fairytales and love stories. Nobody tells you how much work it is to love someone full-time, 24-7, seven days a week—*really love someone.* After the honeymoon wears off, it hits you—sometimes gradually, other times suddenly like a ton of bricks. You’re living day-to-day with the quirks of your partner and juggling all the pressures of life and work. Then, one day, you have this pit in your stomach and dare to wonder if you married the wrong person. [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/love-is-sometimes-inconvenient) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How Being Compliant and a People Pleaser Destroys Marriages*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-being-compliant-and-a-people-pleaser-destroys-marriages) February 15, 2019 [![How Being Compliant and a People Pleaser Destroys Marriages](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Don't-you-have-ANYTHING-to-say_!-624532442_2123x1417-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Don't-you-have-ANYTHING-to-say_!-624532442_2123x1417-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-being-compliant-and-a-people-pleaser-destroys-marriages) One of the most common and precarious habits that I observe in couples and even long-term marriages is the popular behavior of telling your partner what they *want* to hear rather than what you need, want, think, and feel. When we go along with our partner rather than engage on a real and authentic level, it builds a marriage with unsteady stilts that can topple at any time. Pleasing, people pleasers and compliance are prevalent. So why is this habit so pervasive? *Estimated reading time: 4.5 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-being-compliant-and-a-people-pleaser-destroys-marriages) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How to Handle Stress in Relationships*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-handle-stress-in-relationship) February 14, 2019 [![How to Handle Stress in Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/sadness-today-513648211_2201x1365-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=sadness-today-513648211_2201x1365-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-handle-stress-in-relationship) In my relationship coaching with couples, one of the most common complaints that I hear from men and women is that they feel criticized and unappreciated by their partner. Many of their partner's behaviors help create this experience, some subtle and some not so subtle: negative comments, disapproval, reprimands, fault-finding, rolling of eyes, criticism, nagging, solving problems, offering advice, or questioning their partner's actions and decisions. However, recent brain research indicates that men are more vulnerable to complaints and criticism from their partner than women are. \[...\] [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-handle-stress-in-relationship) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How Principles of Ecology Apply to Personal Relationships*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-principles-of-ecology-apply-to-personal-relationships) February 10, 2019 [![How Principles of Ecology Apply to Personal Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/three-Orange-peppers-in-greenhouse-841646470_3008x2000.jpeg?width=600&name=three-Orange-peppers-in-greenhouse-841646470_3008x2000.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-principles-of-ecology-apply-to-personal-relationships) Did you know that nature creates no waste? Last summer, I had to remind myself of this fact when I came across a magpie greedily devouring a carcass while on a walk. Think about the magnitude of the concept of "no waste" for a moment. Profound isn't it? Even mind-boggling. It turns out that health for an ecosystem, including our relationship with ourselves,  boils down to a few age-old principles. If we're going to create and keep anything healthy, we have to take care of it! [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-principles-of-ecology-apply-to-personal-relationships) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships), [Heartmanity Webinars, Classes, and Events](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/heartmanity-webinars-classes-and-events) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Do You Want a Happy Marriage? Do These 5 Actions!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-you-want-a-happy-marriage-do-these-5-actions) January 24, 2019 [![Do You Want a Happy Marriage? Do These 5 Actions!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Couple-cooking-together-at-home-SM-1390903079_726x484_Compressed.jpeg?width=600&name=Couple-cooking-together-at-home-SM-1390903079_726x484_Compressed.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-you-want-a-happy-marriage-do-these-5-actions) One thing is top of mind in my life: my relationships. Every year, a ritual I never miss is taking stock of how well I have loved those most important to me the year before. I typically do this practice on my birthday or at the beginning of the new year. One of the most precious people in my life, as you might guess, is my husband of several decades. This year in reflecting on what has supported our happiness and success, there are a few things that stand out, which occurred to me that they may be helpful to others. *Estimated reading time: 10 minutes ... but a lifetime to master!* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-you-want-a-happy-marriage-do-these-5-actions) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn [« More Great Content Here](https://blog.heartmanity.com/author/jennifer-a-williams-heartmanity-founder/page/7) [Newer »](https://blog.heartmanity.com/author/jennifer-a-williams-heartmanity-founder/page/5) ### Free Newsletter! ### Featured Online Courses [![Online Course - Emotional Fitness for the 21st Century](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hubfs/blog-files/blog-side-fitness2.jpeg)](https://heartmanity-services-products.myshopify.com/collections/webinars/products/self-help-8-week-course-bundle) [![4 Keys to Unlocking the Power of Empathy](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hubfs/blog-files/blog-side-empathy2.jpeg)](https://heartmanity-services-products.myshopify.com/collections/webinars/products/real-empathy-real-solutions-self-coaching-workbook) ### Sign Up For Our Newsletter ![Heartmanity](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/heartmanity-logo-invert-web.png?width=260&name=heartmanity-logo-invert-web.png) 1104 East Main Street, Suite 4 Bozeman, MT 59715 Copyright © 2009-2025 Heartmanity, LLC. 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