--- title: Heartmanity Blog | Jennifer A. Williams / Emotional Intelligence Coach (15) description: Jennifer is the Heartmanity founder and an emotional intelligence expert. She has two decades of EQ experience and is the author of emotional intelligence training and courses. As an emotional fitness coach, Jennifer teaches EQ skills, brain science hacks, and a comprehensive approach that gets results. She is happily married and the mother of three incredible grown children. 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Find me on: ### Recent Posts: ## [*Why You Need to Replace People-Pleasing with Kindness*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-you-need-to-replace-people-pleasing-with-kindness) October 01, 2020 [![Why You Need to Replace People-Pleasing with Kindness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Young-woman-serving-spaghetti-to-her-parents-Compressed-961902620.jpeg?width=600&name=Young-woman-serving-spaghetti-to-her-parents-Compressed-961902620.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-you-need-to-replace-people-pleasing-with-kindness) Most people think when they please someone, their action is kind. Yes, their action may impact others positively. It feels good for a person to do things for us, to help us out in a time of need, to volunteer on a committee, or watch our kids for a couple of hours. However, if this act of supposed kindness is wrong or even hurtful to the giver, it’s not kindness. It’s people-pleasing. *Estimated reading time: 5 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-you-need-to-replace-people-pleasing-with-kindness) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Blame: A Lazy Response to Avoid Responsibility*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/blame-a-lazy-response-to-avoid-responsibility) September 26, 2020 [![Blame: A Lazy Response to Avoid Responsibility](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Going-through-a-rough-patch-Compressed-624532458_1256x838.jpeg?width=600&name=Going-through-a-rough-patch-Compressed-624532458_1256x838.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/blame-a-lazy-response-to-avoid-responsibility) We are all too familiar with the blame game. When we’re upset or exasperated in life, blaming our spouse, child, friend, or boss is an easy route to relief. You know the drill: “If you wouldn’t procrastinate fixing things around the house, then I wouldn’t nag.” Or if you weren’t so sensitive, we could discuss things calmer.” And sometimes a person moves to name-calling: “You’re so frustrating or selfish or hurtful or ….” *Estimated reading time: 6 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/blame-a-lazy-response-to-avoid-responsibility) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness), [Emotional Intelligence](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Minimalism: Is It Bad for Your Business and Your Life?*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/minimalism-is-it-bad-for-your-business-and-your-life) September 22, 2020 [![Minimalism: Is It Bad for Your Business and Your Life?](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Herbs-and-vegetables-Compressed-175442289_1258x838.jpeg?width=600&name=Herbs-and-vegetables-Compressed-175442289_1258x838.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/minimalism-is-it-bad-for-your-business-and-your-life) Is the concept of minimalism a limiting framework? To me, minimalism appeared simply to be the denial of our desires. Since our [brains are built on the premise of more, better, and always transcending](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-brains-neurotransmitters-and-why-you-should-make-pleasure-a-priority) yesterday, the concept seemed like a trendy girdle to hold back the grand expressions of self-expression. At the very least, I viewed a minimalist life as boring because of my love affair with abundance, flow, variety, and beauty.Estimated reading time: 4 minutes [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/minimalism-is-it-bad-for-your-business-and-your-life) Posted in [Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/brain-fitness-mindfulness-and-perspective), [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Struggling with Anxiety? Learn How to Calm Yourself*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/struggling-with-anxiety-learn-how-to-calm-yourself) September 14, 2020 [![Struggling with Anxiety? Learn How to Calm Yourself](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Stressed--young-woman-000085879573_Large.jpg?width=600&name=Stressed--young-woman-000085879573_Large.jpg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/struggling-with-anxiety-learn-how-to-calm-yourself) Whether you are aware of it or not, dysregulated emotions can hijack your energy and behavior, causing a distorted view of life's experiences. The inner chatter driven by anxiety, emotional dysregulation, and knee-jerk reactions rarely creates good results. Understanding what's happening in your brain and learning [self-regulation](https://blog.heartmanity.com/want-more-inner-peace-learn-these-simple-emotional-self-regulation-and-eq-skills) can give you calmer responses, reduced anxiety, and enhanced well-being. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/struggling-with-anxiety-learn-how-to-calm-yourself) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Why Do People Take Out Their Anger on Others? And What to Do About It!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-do-people-take-out-their-anger-on-others-and-what-to-do-about-it) September 10, 2020 [![Why Do People Take Out Their Anger on Others? And What to Do About It!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Furious-businessman-talking-to-someone-over-smart-phone-Compressed-496552806.jpeg?width=600&name=Furious-businessman-talking-to-someone-over-smart-phone-Compressed-496552806.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-do-people-take-out-their-anger-on-others-and-what-to-do-about-it) *Note: In this post, when we talk about "safety," we're referring to emotional safety. If someone's anger makes you feel physically unsafe, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.* What do you do when someone takes their anger out on you? How do you handle angry people? And why do people get angry in the first place? It's natural to have lots of questions when faced with anger, but often what we're searching for isn't answers—it's safety. Anger threatens our sense of emotional security, leaving us feeling uncertain about our relationships with others. [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-do-people-take-out-their-anger-on-others-and-what-to-do-about-it) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Self-Care Is Foundational to a Healthy and Happy Life*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-care-is-foundational-to-a-healthy-and-happy-life) August 18, 2020 [![Self-Care Is Foundational to a Healthy and Happy Life](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Tired-beautiful-woman-taking-a-break-while-jogging-in-park-C_641273398_2125x1416.jpeg?width=600&name=Tired-beautiful-woman-taking-a-break-while-jogging-in-park-C_641273398_2125x1416.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-care-is-foundational-to-a-healthy-and-happy-life) Self-care has many definitions. Just as people are unique and have different preferences and desires, defining self-care for ourselves is also unique. Self-nurturance is about being aware of our own needs, paying attention to, and actively choosing to nurture our needs consistently. It's vital to respond to our ever-changing lives, moment-by-moment, by caring for ourselves. Being our best in all aspects of mind, body, and spirit is crucial to our health and well-being. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-care-is-foundational-to-a-healthy-and-happy-life) Posted in [Habits for Health](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/habits-for-health), [Emotional Intelligence](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How to Create a Digital Vision Board*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-create-a-digital-vision-board) August 11, 2020 [![How to Create a Digital Vision Board](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/AI(Artificial-Intelligence)-concept.-957654638_2227x1351.jpeg?width=600&name=AI(Artificial-Intelligence)-concept.-957654638_2227x1351.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-create-a-digital-vision-board) As summer gradually gives way to autumn, it is the perfect time to examine what parts of our lives are no longer serving us—and create a reality that supports our goals, visions, and dreams. A powerful (and fun) way to accelerate growth and manifestation is through a digital vision board. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-create-a-digital-vision-board) Posted in [Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/brain-fitness-mindfulness-and-perspective), [Emotional Intelligence](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Being a People Pleaser Does Not Make You Kind*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/being-a-people-pleaser-does-not-make-you-kind) July 28, 2020 [![Being a People Pleaser Does Not Make You Kind](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Woman-taking-off-mask-compressor.jpg?width=600&name=Woman-taking-off-mask-compressor.jpg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/being-a-people-pleaser-does-not-make-you-kind) A pervasive pattern has quietly invaded our culture—people-pleasing. Compliance and pleasing are woven into the very fabric of etiquette and social norms. Children quickly discover that pleasing their caregivers and keeping them happy pays off and prevents unpleasant consequences. Children need to be loved and cared for to survive; their basic needs drive them to acquiesce in thousands of ways. Adults are bigger, faster, smarter, and stronger, so it’s often futile to go against the grain. This behavior is natural for children dependent on adults, yet, when this habit persists into adulthood, \[...\] [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/being-a-people-pleaser-does-not-make-you-kind) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How to Overcome Bad Habits Using Self-Acceptance*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-overcome-bad-habits-using-self-acceptance) July 16, 2020 [![How to Overcome Bad Habits Using Self-Acceptance](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Female-runner-stretching-on-tarmac-000026095896_Large-compressor.jpg?width=600&name=Female-runner-stretching-on-tarmac-000026095896_Large-compressor.jpg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-overcome-bad-habits-using-self-acceptance) Overcoming is an oxymoron. We are in charge of our lives, so when we say we want to "overcome" a bad habit, we’re actually saying that we are giving our power to something that we don’t approve of. We can’t “overcome” ourselves. Real and lasting change comes from self-love and acceptance. So why do we keep doing things that we know are detrimental to our health? [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-overcome-bad-habits-using-self-acceptance) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Why Is Mindfulness Important? And 3 Simple Practices*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-is-mindfulness-important-and-3-simple-practices) June 18, 2020 [![Why Is Mindfulness Important? And 3 Simple Practices](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Young-girl-thinking-with-glowing-brain-illustration-1072525708_1266x833-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Young-girl-thinking-with-glowing-brain-illustration-1072525708_1266x833-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-is-mindfulness-important-and-3-simple-practices) If you’re learning about mindfulness, perhaps you’re curious whether mindful living will improve the quality of your life. So why is mindfulness important, and does it make a difference? There still may be many misconceptions about mindfulness, such as it’s a Buddhist practice, or it requires sitting in a lotus position for hours. Regardless, it is becoming more widely accepted—and for good reason. Find out why it's becoming so popular! *Estimated reading time: 4.5 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-is-mindfulness-important-and-3-simple-practices) Posted in [Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/brain-fitness-mindfulness-and-perspective), [Emotional Intelligence](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn [« More Great Content Here](https://blog.heartmanity.com/author/jennifer-a-williams-emotional-intelligence-coach/page/16) [Newer »](https://blog.heartmanity.com/author/jennifer-a-williams-emotional-intelligence-coach/page/14) ### Free Newsletter! 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