Are you struggling to get motivated or unable to lose weight? Does it feel like you’ve tried everything with no results?! It is discouraging, isn't it!?
You’re not alone. It’s difficult for many people, including myself, to stay dedicated to a lifestyle that promotes health and fitness. Our schedules are crazy busy, and it takes discipline and consistency to develop healthy habits.
Or does it? Is that all that’s going on?
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Weight Loss Discovery Questions
Why Can't I Motivate Myself to Lose Weight?
Create a New Mindset to Support Weight Loss
Steps to Lose Weight and Gain Self-Esteem in the Process
Step 1: Reframe the Way You View Yourself, Your Body, and Your Weight
Step 2: Accept Yourself (and Your Body) with Compassion
Step 3: Before Eating, Sit Down, Calm Your Mind, and Relax Your Body
Thich Nhat Hanh Quote on Eating
Frequently Asked Questions
Weight Loss Discovery Questions
Are you judging yourself?
Hmm…. Might be keeping you stuck.
Do you eat food to “feel” better, but your mood worsens afterward?
Hmm…. The part of you that you’re feeding isn’t your body.
Does your food sit in your belly feeling heavy?
Hmm…. Your body may be in a survival response.
Why Can't I Motivate Myself to Lose Weight!?
One key factor in all healthy or unhealthy habits to consider is your stress triggers. It doesn't matter how good your intentions are once these stress triggers are activated.
Once activated, we do not metabolize our food optimally.
Why?
Because our brain redirects energy from digestion to our legs and arms for a fast response to survive, such as when a person is confronted by an unexpected grizzly bear.
Our digestive juices aren’t essential when escaping danger and staying alive is the priority.
And since we’re under unhealthy stress continually, we have a big problem. (Why do you think many people gain so much fat in the belly area?)
So it may not be about motivation after all!
Related reading: "How to Internal and External Motivation to Catapult You to Your Goals."Create a New Mindset to Support Weight Loss
One of the first things on a successful journey to increased vitality, health, and ideal weight is to get a fresh mindset about your body and those extra pounds.
Unprocessed feelings distort the way we see ourselves. Just like a lake with waves, the distortion prevents you from seeing your image in the water clearly.
The waves of critical self-talk and negative emotions coursing through your system create a static that blocks true change and actions leading to your better self and a healthier body.
Related reading: "5 Ways to Build Healthy Habits for Fitness and Weight Loss."
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Steps to Lose Weight and Gain Self-Esteem in the Process
Try the following simple steps for a fresh approach to health and to achieve your goal of losing weight.
STEP 1 - Create a New Mindset: Reframe the way you view yourself, your body, and your weight.
Extra weight is about carrying around outworn patterns, repressed or postponed desires, unprocessed emotions, unresolved pain, unlived dreams, and stillborn creative pursuits.
It’s time to live, not eat more.
Instead of beating yourself up because you’re overeating or neglecting exercise, it’s time to reconnect with your deep aspirations.
- What past experiences might you still be digesting?
For example, your love relationship recently fell apart and you're grieving and lonely. - What dream have you buried under that weight?
Maybe you dreamed of owning your own business but you're miserable in your current job. Just can't get the courage to quit. - Are there any emotions you've been ignoring?
Perhaps, you miss a close friend who moved to another state and you're afraid of losing touch with them. Or you're feeling stuck in an unhealthy relationship and hesitating to set a healthy boundary.
Love those pounds; they hold a vital message for you.
Behind every bad habit is an unmet need or unfulfilled desire.
Get curious.
Listen.
Then act on what you discover. Each time you open to your truth, you’ll feel lighter! With this fresh perspective, you'll be more motivated, too!
STEP 2 - Accept yourself (and your body) with compassion and loving-kindness.
Now that you have a new way of looking at yourself, it’s time to give yourself the gift of emotional freedom. Before you mindlessly start eating, stop and take a few deep breaths. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?” or “What unpleasant emotion am I trying to avoid or cover over with eating?”
Just by identifying an emotion, the built-up energy will dissipate. Emotional health begins with allowing yourself to feel what you’re feeling. Gently send compassion to whatever you're feeling. Open your heart.
As the energy reintegrates, listen carefully. An emotion often reveals an action that will help you step into your authentic power more fully in the future.
For example, a few promptings you might hear from your emotions could be: “Have an honest talk with your friend” or “Let go of blame and ask for what you need.” or “Slow down before you agree to a commitment next time, it’s okay to say no.” Take note and plan to act differently at the next opportunity.
When we are emotionally healthy, our physical bodies are happy and weight normalizes.
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Now on a practical note:
STEP 3 - Before eating, sit down, calm your mind, and relax your body.
Release the weight of your responsibilities, allowing yourself to be fully present in the moment. Embrace the here and now. Set aside the demands and distractions that often pull you away from your own well-being. This is YOUR time to focus on YOU, to connect with your inner peace, and to truly engage with the present experience.
Put your phone and computer away.
Take a few slow, deep breaths before taking your first bite.
Why?
This simple practice acts to signal the brain that you’re safe and dials down your survival response.
Deep breathing plays a crucial role in activating the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for promoting a state of calm and relaxation in the body.
This activation is essential for enhancing digestion, as it allows the body to shift from a state of stress or "fight or flight" mode to a more restful "rest and digest" state. When the parasympathetic system is engaged, it encourages the production of digestive enzymes and increases blood flow to the digestive organs, facilitating more efficient breakdown and absorption of nutrients.
By deep breathing—even for seconds prior to eating —and making it part of your routine, you'll create an environment where your body can process food more effectively, leading to improved overall digestive health and well-being.
Relaxing and deep breathing also cue the body to turn on the metabolism. Thus, your body is prepared to receive the meal.
Just this simple practice can make all the difference in how you assimilate your food and whether it nourishes you or adds another pound.
As Thich Nhat Hanh has said, “Chew your food, not your worries.”
Follow these steps until they become a healthy habit and watch your weight melt away as the snow melts in the heat of the sun.
Losing weight is not about losing fat; it’s about freeing energy and gaining self-esteem and self-love along the way.
One way to change your relationship with food is by following the holistic principles of Ayurveda. Each positive action contributes to optimal health.
Changing your inner world is what will transform your body and life.
Frequently Asked Questions
How can I accept myself when I'm overweight?
The first thing to do is send compassion to yourself and how you are feeling. Here is where you are: overweight and tired of it! If you are feeling bad about your weight, you want to be somewhere else.
The first step in all change is acknowledging where we are. Accept that this is where you are.
Next, replace all negative self-talk with encouragement. No amount of criticism and self-loathing ever made us feel better about ourselves. Your number one job is to stay mindfully positive!
Then ask, what habits lead me here? Identify them. Then, design a new path: the habits you'll need to develop to achieve and maintain the weight that feels good to you. Write down the new habits and set your goals.
You got this!
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