Empathy and Men vs. Women: A Common Scenario
Recently, a couple came in for a marriage coaching because they were stuck in a rut. Whenever she was upset about something, she would seek emotional support from him. Instead of empathy or even reflective listening, he would cut her off and suggest a bevy of ways to solve her problem. She would get more upset as a result because she didn’t feel understood. “Why can’t you just be there for me?” she’d ask.
In our session together, he explained that he felt like he would be validating her “unproductive” behavior (i.e., being emotional without [...]