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Topics: Select a topic... All Emotional Intelligence & Fitness Leadership and Business Love, Marriage, and Relationships Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective Communication & Interpersonal Skills Habits for Health Heartmanity Webinars, Classes, and Events Filters ## [*How to Handle Stress in Relationships*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-handle-stress-in-relationship) February 14, 2019 [![How to Handle Stress in Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/sadness-today-513648211_2201x1365-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=sadness-today-513648211_2201x1365-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-handle-stress-in-relationship) In my relationship coaching with couples, one of the most common complaints that I hear from men and women is that they feel criticized and unappreciated by their partner. Many of their partner's behaviors help create this experience, some subtle and some not so subtle: negative comments, disapproval, reprimands, fault-finding, rolling of eyes, criticism, nagging, solving problems, offering advice, or questioning their partner's actions and decisions. However, recent brain research indicates that men are more vulnerable to complaints and criticism from their partner than women are. \[...\] [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-handle-stress-in-relationship) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How Principles of Ecology Apply to Personal Relationships*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-principles-of-ecology-apply-to-personal-relationships) February 10, 2019 [![How Principles of Ecology Apply to Personal Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/three-Orange-peppers-in-greenhouse-841646470_3008x2000.jpeg?width=600&name=three-Orange-peppers-in-greenhouse-841646470_3008x2000.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-principles-of-ecology-apply-to-personal-relationships) Did you know that nature creates no waste? Last summer, I had to remind myself of this fact when I came across a magpie greedily devouring a carcass while on a walk. Think about the magnitude of the concept of "no waste" for a moment. Profound isn't it? Even mind-boggling. It turns out that health for an ecosystem, including our relationship with ourselves,  boils down to a few age-old principles. If we're going to create and keep anything healthy, we have to take care of it! [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-principles-of-ecology-apply-to-personal-relationships) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships), [Heartmanity Webinars, Classes, and Events](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/heartmanity-webinars-classes-and-events) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Do You Want a Happy Marriage? Do These 5 Actions!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-you-want-a-happy-marriage-do-these-5-actions) January 24, 2019 [![Do You Want a Happy Marriage? Do These 5 Actions!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Couple-cooking-together-at-home-SM-1390903079_726x484_Compressed.jpeg?width=600&name=Couple-cooking-together-at-home-SM-1390903079_726x484_Compressed.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-you-want-a-happy-marriage-do-these-5-actions) One thing is top of mind in my life: my relationships. Every year, a ritual I never miss is taking stock of how well I have loved those most important to me the year before. I typically do this practice on my birthday or at the beginning of the new year. One of the most precious people in my life, as you might guess, is my husband of several decades. This year in reflecting on what has supported our happiness and success, there are a few things that stand out, which occurred to me that they may be helpful to others. *Estimated reading time: 10 minutes ... but a lifetime to master!* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-you-want-a-happy-marriage-do-these-5-actions) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*You Create the Quality of Your Relationship*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/you-create-the-quality-of-your-relationship) January 13, 2019 [![You Create the Quality of Your Relationship](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Luxury-restaurant-table-on-sunset-502840530_2549x1700-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Luxury-restaurant-table-on-sunset-502840530_2549x1700-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/you-create-the-quality-of-your-relationship) Have you ever compared the quality of your relationship to a dining experience? Probably not. Yet, most people relish a delicious, home-cooked meal, or a gourmet dinner at a fine restaurant. It's common knowledge to my family and friends that I would rather go without eating than eat fast food. It's not that I'm a food snob; I simply don't feel good after eating most of its fare. An occasional meal at McDonald's or Burger King isn't going to give you anything but indigestion. Yet, if you make a regular habit of eating fast food, your convenience may go up, but [your health can rapidly decline](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Super_Size_Me). [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/you-create-the-quality-of-your-relationship) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Falling Out of Love—and What to Do About It!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/falling-out-of-love-and-what-to-do-about-it) April 26, 2018 [![Falling Out of Love—and What to Do About It!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/quarrel-between-lovers-157696475_2122x1415-2.jpeg?width=600&name=quarrel-between-lovers-157696475_2122x1415-2.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/falling-out-of-love-and-what-to-do-about-it) In our very active and full lives, it is so easy to get caught up in the daily demands of our work or interests and sacrifice love. With the added challenge of [technology addiction](https://blog.heartmanity.com/technology-and-relationships-how-technology-affects-relationships), couples can be living more like roommates than lovers. Many struggling couples ask me, "Can you fall out of love?" or tell me that they've fallen out of love. *Estimated reading time: 6 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/falling-out-of-love-and-what-to-do-about-it) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Technology and Relationships: How Technology Affects Relationships*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/technology-and-relationships-how-technology-affects-relationships) March 01, 2018 [![Technology and Relationships: How Technology Affects Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Couple-is-Watching-TV-512596970_2122x1416.jpeg?width=600&name=Couple-is-Watching-TV-512596970_2122x1416.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/technology-and-relationships-how-technology-affects-relationships) You are now competing with pixels for the attention of nearly everyone you know. And you are probably losing. Technology addiction, screen time, the black hole of the internet, Reddit, and the endless scroll of Instagram and TikTok—not to mention those notifications every time an email slides in! The widespread influence of tech is part of our daily lives. There are more ways for screens to suck people in than there are people to be enticed. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/technology-and-relationships-how-technology-affects-relationships) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships), [Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/brain-fitness-mindfulness-and-perspective) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Transform Criticism to Appreciation and Triple Your Love!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/transform-criticism-to-appreciation-and-triple-your-love) January 02, 2018 [![Transform Criticism to Appreciation and Triple Your Love!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/You-enjoying-your-book%2c-honey-489218959_1885x1592.jpeg?width=600&name=You-enjoying-your-book%2c-honey-489218959_1885x1592.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/transform-criticism-to-appreciation-and-triple-your-love) It’s common to hear couples complain about behaviors of their partners while wishing their life could be happier. Somehow, we think that if our partner changed, we would be happier. Or we think, “If my partner would stop annoying me, start appreciating me, or be more intimate with me, our relationship would improve.” However, the key lies in our ability to love ourselves. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/transform-criticism-to-appreciation-and-triple-your-love) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*What Every Couple Can Learn from Military Relationships*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/what-every-couple-can-learn-from-military-relationships) June 19, 2017 [![What Every Couple Can Learn from Military Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/I'm-so-scared!-545373068_2125x1416-1.jpeg?width=600&name=I'm-so-scared!-545373068_2125x1416-1.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/what-every-couple-can-learn-from-military-relationships) Not every couple will struggle with glitchy Skype connections during months apart, the U.S. Government interrupting dinner, or the strain Top Secret secrets place on two people in love. Military relationships are subject to a laundry list of struggles—and joys—that others don’t have. But at the heart of military relationship challenges are the same human issues that every couple navigates. These seven tips for strengthening a military relationship are based on the principles of [Emotional Intelligence (EQ](https://blog.heartmanity.com/what-is-emotional-intelligence)). Hopefully they will help with deployment, reunion and the everyday challenges of \[...\] [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/what-every-couple-can-learn-from-military-relationships) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships), [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Love Is a Choice - the Best Marriage Advice!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/love-is-a-choice-best-marriage-advice) October 24, 2016 [![Love Is a Choice - the Best Marriage Advice!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Romantic-couple-on-a-winter-holiday-1005329906_1258x838-compressor-1.jpeg?width=600&name=Romantic-couple-on-a-winter-holiday-1005329906_1258x838-compressor-1.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/love-is-a-choice-best-marriage-advice) We have been duped! “Happily ever after” has been made out to be something that happens magically when you’re in love. People don’t tell you how much work it takes to understand one another in everyday life. Love is a choice and one that isn't always easy. It can be difficult to set aside your own opinions and truly hear your partner’s opposing views. No one prepares you with the necessary skills, such as how to express emotions without hurting your partner or how to calm your emotions so they don’t distort reality and [blind you when communicating with your partner](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-achieve-more-intimacy-in-marriage). *Estimated reading time: 3 \[...\]* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/love-is-a-choice-best-marriage-advice) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*The Stop, Drop, and Roll of Successful Communication in Relationships*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-stop-drop-and-roll-of-successful-communication-in-relationships) August 02, 2016 [![The Stop, Drop, and Roll of Successful Communication in Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Couple-arguing-in-the-morning-at-home-000075724669_Large-1.jpg?width=600&name=Couple-arguing-in-the-morning-at-home-000075724669_Large-1.jpg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-stop-drop-and-roll-of-successful-communication-in-relationships) Most of us (especially parents) know what to do if our clothes catch fire: STOP, DROP, and ROLL. But do we know what to do if our relationship catches fire? Our relationship may function smoothly and harmoniously most of the time. But when a conflict does arise, we may find out that we just don’t know how to resolve it. Many times, the problem lies in our lack of communication skills. We all want to feel heard and understood. If we don’t know how to establish real connection through effective communication in our love relationship, we may find ourselves competing within the relationship for \[...\] [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-stop-drop-and-roll-of-successful-communication-in-relationships) Posted in [Love, Marriage, and Relationships](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships), [Most Popular](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/most-popular) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn [« More Great Content Here](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships/page/9) [Newer »](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/love-marriage-and-relationships/page/7) ### Free Newsletter! ### Featured Online Courses [![Online Course - Emotional Fitness for the 21st Century](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hubfs/blog-files/blog-side-fitness2.jpeg)](https://heartmanity-services-products.myshopify.com/collections/webinars/products/self-help-8-week-course-bundle) [![4 Keys to Unlocking the Power of Empathy](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hubfs/blog-files/blog-side-empathy2.jpeg)](https://heartmanity-services-products.myshopify.com/collections/webinars/products/real-empathy-real-solutions-self-coaching-workbook) ### Sign Up For Our Newsletter ![Heartmanity](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/heartmanity-logo-invert-web.png?width=260&name=heartmanity-logo-invert-web.png) 1104 East Main Street, Suite 4 Bozeman, MT 59715 Copyright © 2009-2025 Heartmanity, LLC. 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