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Topics: Select a topic... All Emotional Intelligence & Fitness Leadership and Business Love, Marriage, and Relationships Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective Communication & Interpersonal Skills Habits for Health Heartmanity Webinars, Classes, and Events Filters ## [*A Fixed Mindset Versus a Growth Mindset*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/a-fixed-mindset-versus-a-growth-mindset) July 03, 2018 [![A Fixed Mindset Versus a Growth Mindset](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Mindset-517227518_1973x1524-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Mindset-517227518_1973x1524-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/a-fixed-mindset-versus-a-growth-mindset) Mindsets are like the story that many of us have heard multiple times: the two fighting wolves. > *“A fight is going on inside me,” a man said to a boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”* > > *The \[...\]* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/a-fixed-mindset-versus-a-growth-mindset) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How to Develop Resilience, and Why You Should!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-develop-resilience-and-why-you-should) June 14, 2018 [![How to Develop Resilience, and Why You Should!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Woman-working-online-at-a-creative-office-912996668_1416x2123.jpeg?width=600&name=Woman-working-online-at-a-creative-office-912996668_1416x2123.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-develop-resilience-and-why-you-should) Grit, resilience, and perseverance have become buzzwords. But what is resilience—really? One thing is for certain: Developing your resiliency can be THE KEY to not only work success but also a healthy social circle and a [work-life balance](https://blog.heartmanity.com/stress-relief-and-work-life-balance-through-mindfulness). After all, life is about balance, isn't it? *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-develop-resilience-and-why-you-should) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Loneliness and Hunger—a Complex Relationship*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/loneliness-and-hunger-a-complex-relationship) May 29, 2018 [![Loneliness and Hunger—a Complex Relationship](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/women-sitting-on-staircase_compressed.jpeg?width=600&name=women-sitting-on-staircase_compressed.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/loneliness-and-hunger-a-complex-relationship) Loneliness and hunger—they are two of the most powerful and intertwined natural instincts. These two sensations are powerhouses in the human body and brain, controlling everything from our sleep to libido, productivity, immunity, muscle development, and cognitive abilities. > *“Now I know what loneliness is, I think. Momentary loneliness, anyway. It comes from a vague core of the self* ― *like a disease of the blood, dispersed throughout the body so that one cannot locate the matrix, the spot of contagion.”*  ―Sylvia Plath, *The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath* *Related reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/loneliness-and-hunger-a-complex-relationship) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Why Being a People Pleaser Damages Relationships—and What to Do About It!*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-being-a-people-pleaser-damages-relationships-and-what-to-do-about-it) May 03, 2018 [![Why Being a People Pleaser Damages Relationships—and What to Do About It!](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Couple-sitting-in-sidewalk-cafe-1169731553_838x1257-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Couple-sitting-in-sidewalk-cafe-1169731553_838x1257-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-being-a-people-pleaser-damages-relationships-and-what-to-do-about-it) Are you a people pleaser? I sure was! Growing up, I *majored* in pleasing others. I honestly believed as a child and young adult that if people didn’t need me, they wouldn’t want me. So I worked at being indispensable. My pleaser habit was so deeply rooted that I didn’t know I was giving up myself on a regular basis, in every relationship at home and work. And whoa!—the havoc it wrecked in my marriage! *Estimated reading time: 8 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-being-a-people-pleaser-damages-relationships-and-what-to-do-about-it) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness), [Most Popular](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/most-popular) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*The Three Kinds of Empathy: Cognitive, Emotional, and Compassionate*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-three-kinds-of-empathy-emotional-cognitive-compassionate) April 19, 2018 [![The Three Kinds of Empathy: Cognitive, Emotional, and Compassionate](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/empathy-word-abstract-in-wood-type-617604376_SMALL_Compressed.jpeg?width=600&name=empathy-word-abstract-in-wood-type-617604376_SMALL_Compressed.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-three-kinds-of-empathy-emotional-cognitive-compassionate) Do you know what the three kinds of empathy are and how to express them? Empathy is a must-learn skill that brings more ease and understanding to your life and relationships!When a student tells you they’re overwhelmed or your partner is working from home and is stressing—do you respond with empathy? Or do you react? Or how would you respond if your partner expressed fear, sadness, and anger telling you they lost their job, and it was right after you dipped into savings to build an addition to your house? The ideal would be to respond thoughtfully and empathetically, but many of us react. **\[...\]** [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-three-kinds-of-empathy-emotional-cognitive-compassionate) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness), [Most Popular](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/most-popular) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Eliminate Clutter and Tackle that Spring Clean-Up for Good*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/eliminate-clutter-and-tackle-that-spring-clean-up-for-good) April 12, 2018 [![Eliminate Clutter and Tackle that Spring Clean-Up for Good](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Messy-Closet-117148506_1497x2007.jpeg?width=600&name=Messy-Closet-117148506_1497x2007.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/eliminate-clutter-and-tackle-that-spring-clean-up-for-good) A clean house or office, free from clutter and perfectly organized—isn’t that the dream? There are thousands of resources out there with techniques for organizing, tips for decluttering, or a process for cleaning your closet. The list runs the gamut from “150+ Things to Throw Away Today” to “30 Ways to Instantly Declutter” and “The 4-Pile Strategy for Simplifying Your Closet.” ***I have another idea: clutter is a mindset.*** [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/eliminate-clutter-and-tackle-that-spring-clean-up-for-good) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness), [Habits for Health](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/habits-for-health) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Self-Acceptance Is the Key to Authentic Power*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-acceptance-is-the-key-to-authentic-power) April 03, 2018 [![Self-Acceptance Is the Key to Authentic Power](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Relaxing-to-some-soothing-music-510073322_SMALL50%25_Compressed-1.jpeg?width=600&name=Relaxing-to-some-soothing-music-510073322_SMALL50%25_Compressed-1.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-acceptance-is-the-key-to-authentic-power) Self-acceptance is the doorway to our authentic power. And when acceptance is lacking, it's one of *the* biggest stumbling blocks to a person’s solid sense of self and serenity. Without [self-acceptance](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/200809/the-path-unconditional-self-acceptance), there is no true freedom. Mental chatter and the relentless monkey mind dismantle even the most disciplined focus. Aww... if we could only quiet the noise! *Estimated reading time: 6 minutes.* Mastery—an ongoing journey.❣️ [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-acceptance-is-the-key-to-authentic-power) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*How to Find Inner Peace by Resolving Conflicting Feelings*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-find-inner-peace-by-resolving-conflicting-feelings) March 13, 2018 [![How to Find Inner Peace by Resolving Conflicting Feelings](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Couple%20getting%20dressed%20for%20a%20rewards%20ceremony.%20Husband%20asks%20which%20shirt%20should%20I%20wear%3F.jpeg?width=600&name=Couple%20getting%20dressed%20for%20a%20rewards%20ceremony.%20Husband%20asks%20which%20shirt%20should%20I%20wear%3F.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-find-inner-peace-by-resolving-conflicting-feelings) Conflict within ourselves and in relationships is one of the biggest challenges for most people. Learning to appreciate another person's perspective and their differences contributes to better communication and greater understanding, but first, we must quiet the mixed feelings within ourselves! Self-awareness is an essential aspect of resolving conflicted feelings. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-find-inner-peace-by-resolving-conflicting-feelings) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*The Spaces in Between Are Just as Important*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-spaces-in-between-are-just-as-important) February 27, 2018 [![The Spaces in Between Are Just as Important](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Trapeze-artist-performing-outside-693049884_2126x1415.jpeg?width=600&name=Trapeze-artist-performing-outside-693049884_2126x1415.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-spaces-in-between-are-just-as-important) We are essentially just moving our bodies around in space. I remind my yoga students that from time to time, not to diminish the importance of yoga to them or to make it seem trivial. In fact, operating in space is exactly the opposite. Open space is, in my mind, incredibly under-appreciated. So often we spend our days rushing through space, whether that’s hurtling through traffic from point A to B in our car or hastening to complete the next bullet point on our never-ending to-do list. [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-spaces-in-between-are-just-as-important) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Is a Lack of Empathy Destroying Our Interconnectivity?*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/is-a-lack-of-empathy-destroying-our-interconnectivity) February 20, 2018 [![Is a Lack of Empathy Destroying Our Interconnectivity?](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Young-girl-using-smart-phone%2cSocial-media-concept.-673485188_2174x1383.jpeg?width=600&name=Young-girl-using-smart-phone%2cSocial-media-concept.-673485188_2174x1383.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/is-a-lack-of-empathy-destroying-our-interconnectivity) Every day, we have more and more ability through technology to stay connected no matter where we live in the world. But each day, many of us lack empathy in our lives and feel more and more alone. It’s counterintuitive—but the statistics don’t lie. *Estimated reading time: 5 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/is-a-lack-of-empathy-destroying-our-interconnectivity) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn [« More Great Content Here](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness/page/16) [Newer »](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness/page/14) ### Free Newsletter! 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