Why We Think Teenage Rebellion Is Normal

March 16, 2018

When I was teaching a parenting class a few years ago, a mother told the story of the time her son came home from kindergarten with green hair. She went ballistic as soon as she saw him. When I asked what triggered her anger, she replied, "All I could see was a teenager standing there with green hair, tattoos, a ring in his nose, and a chain belt hanging from his waist." Her mind had catapulted her into some imaginary future scene, and her fear set off a chain reaction. In fact, the green hair was left over from a Saint Patrick's Day celebration at school. The teachers had dyed the [...]

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4 Keys to Set Healthy Boundaries for Teens

October 07, 2017
  All parents hope their children will become respectful, responsible, and loving adults. However, family and work lives are extremely busy and hectic. Time collapses like a cheap cardboard box and soon the months turn to years and toddlers turn to teens. Parents find themselves stumped by the teenage years and completely unprepared.
As parents, we can slip into inattentive parenting from sheer exhaustion. Genes alone cannot give children emotional control. Sorry to disappoint but no gene guarantees emotional intelligence. This critical development is up to parents. Children [...]

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Visionary Parenting Is the Key to Capable and Happy Children

September 16, 2016

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the stress of hectic day-to-day activities with our families and children and fail to do our best parenting. We can all too easily react to our children’s testy (and testing!) behavior without even thinking. Most parents don’t realize that in our knee-jerk reactions, we are giving our children unhelpful messages that do not teach them how to become capable, happy adults.

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Comparison: Thief to Your Child’s Self-Esteem

December 21, 2015

My guess is that there’s hardly a parent in the world who hasn’t said something like this to a child in a moment of exasperation:

“Look at your brother—he jumps right on his homework after school! Why do I always have to nag you to get yours done?”

“Your sister’s a whiz at math, but all you want to do is draw.”

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Praise - Sweet Destroyer of Self-Esteem

May 14, 2015
I recently came across an excellent 2005 article in USA Today online, titled: " Yep, Life'll Burst That Self-Esteem Bubble," which eloquently outlines some of the flaws in the self-esteem movement that originated in the '70s and '80s. The reason this topic caught my eye was that I'm currently teaching a parenting class of very sincere and eager parents. In one of the latest sessions we talked about how self-esteem is built and the difference between external and internal motivation.

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Are You Teaching Your Child Self-Control?

May 19, 2014

You’re in a grocery store and your 5-year-old asks to buy a candy bar at the checkout stand. You calmly but firmly say no. Before you can turn back to the checkout person, your child is on the floor kicking and screaming! What do you do?

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Myths and Misconceptions about Discipline

January 15, 2014
Parenting is a difficult and complex job. No one who has ever been a parent will argue this point. However, one of the reasons that parenting is so hard is not because children are difficult but because we do not know how to parent consciously from a free place. When we are able to modulate our own emotions and reactions in response to their behavior, we can then respond from a much more loving place.

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Bridling the Gusto of a Toddler: from Trantrums to Tranquility

May 16, 2012

Imagine for a moment that you are a newborn. Mom and Dad are ecstatic about your every little move. Every milestone invokes major attention and is fully photographed and documented: your birth, your first smile, your first word, your first food, your first haircut. Everyone gathers to watch you roll over, sit up, and take your first step. There are looks of adoration and coos oozing from every face that greets you. Everything revolves around you! You are the center of the universe for two whole years!

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Is Velcro Destroying Motivation in Our Kids?

April 14, 2011

Lately I have been listening to moms frustrated with their children's lack of motivation. They are perplexed about why they must nag their children to do homework or their teens to complete chores. When I ask, "Have you taught them how to tie their shoes?" they are taken aback."What do you mean? Anthony is fourteen—of course he knows how to tie his own shoes!"

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