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Transform Criticism to Appreciation and Triple Your Love!

January 02, 2018

It’s common to hear couples complain about different behaviors of their partners while wishing their life could be happier. Somehow, we think that if our partner changed, we would be happier. Or we think, “If my partner would stop annoying me or start appreciating me, or be more intimate with me, our relationship would improve.”

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Let Go of Expectations and Start Enjoying Your Relationship

August 28, 2017

“I’ll be home on the first….if everything goes according to the plan.”

He didn’t need to say those last seven words. That caveat—if everything goes as planned—is a given in every conversation with my longtime boyfriend, who works as an officer in the US armed forces. Like knowing that your partner loves you even when he doesn’t say it in so many words, I know that our life is subject to change with little or no warning.

Always assume that nothing will go according to the plan.

He arrived home over two weeks late. That is beyond a “stuck at the office” or “your dinner got cold” [...]

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What Every Couple Can Learn from Military Relationships

June 19, 2017

Not every couple will struggle with glitchy Skype connections during months apart, the U.S. Government interrupting dinner, or the strain Top Secret secrets place on two people in love. Military relationships are subject to a laundry list of struggles—and joys—that others don’t have. But at the heart of military relationship challenges are the same human issues that every couple navigates.

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Love Is a Choice - the Best Marriage Advice!

October 24, 2016

We have been duped! “Happily ever after” has been made out to be something that happens magically when you’re in love. People don’t tell you how much work it takes to understand one another in everyday life. No one mentions how difficult it can be to set aside your own opinions to truly hear your partner’s opposing view. And no one prepares you with the necessary skills, such as how to express emotions without hurting your partner or how to calm your emotions so they don’t distort reality and blind you when communicating with your partner.

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The Stop, Drop, and Roll of Successful Communication

August 02, 2016

Most of us (especially parents) know what to do if our clothes catch fire: STOP, DROP, and ROLL. But do we know what to do if our relationship catches fire?

Our relationship may function smoothly and harmoniously most of the time. But when a conflict does arise, we may find out that we just don’t know how to resolve it. Many times, the problem lies in our lack of communication skills.

We all want to feel heard and understood. If we don’t know how to establish real connection through effective communication in our love relationship, we may find ourselves competing within the relationship [...]

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships, Communication & Interpersonal Skills

Can One Person Transform a Relationship?

May 18, 2016

It sounds impossible, right? After all, it takes two to tango. How can one person transform a relationship without the other one on board? Well, it does take two to tango, but if one dancer knows exactly what they're doing and practices often, he/she can teach their partner how to be a better dancer without them even knowing it. It may sound a little sly and tricky, but in some cases, it's just what a couple needs to make the shift from bitterness to bliss.

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships, Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective

Relationship Rescue: Turn Complaints into Closeness

November 04, 2015

In my first meeting with struggling couples, they often deluge me with complaints about their marriage or relationship, listing everything they don't like about their partner and blaming each other. But when I ask them what they want instead, they usually come up blank and say, "I don't know." To create what we want—whether in relationships or in our lives—we have to know what we want! It's easy to slip into negative thinking patterns, because the brain is always alert to spot what's wrong in order to keep us safe. But complaining and blaming only lead to misery and the deterioration of [...]

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Get a Fresh Perspective in Your Committed Relationship!

December 02, 2014

We may have hard heads but we don’t have rock-solid hearts—our hearts are soft and vulnerable. In committed relationships, we need a lot of understanding to build bridges, especially when our needs collide with our partner’s.

One of the things we tend to do is personalize our partner’s behavior when they are acting out their stress or unresolved emotions. When we personalize their behavior, our feelings often get hurt—and then we sometimes either lash out or disconnect from our partner to protect ourselves. Neither tactic creates more closeness or love in our relationship.

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Three Keys to Prevent a Relationship Breakdown

July 17, 2014

In today's hectic world, if we aren’t mindful, it doesn't take long for two people in a loving relationship to unknowingly let outer pressures override quality time together. It’s easy to get caught up in daily demands so much that we can even begin to feel that our partner is the problem, or at least they’re a hassle.

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Three Major Roadblocks in Relationships

June 03, 2014
There are little speed bumps in relationships, and there are major roadblocks. Usually a relationship can survive with a few speed bumps, but when a couple makes major mistakes regularly or creates roadblocks to love, things start going downhill fast. Wouldn't you like to replace these roadblocks with loving habits for relationship building instead?

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