Is It Possible to Plan a Microwedding and Keep Everyone Happy?

June 19, 2018

We just wanted all of our loved ones, a place to dance, and an open bar.

The second you say the word wedding, what should be a wonderful celebration comes crashing down around your feet in a flurry of multi-thousand-dollar estimates, tangled branches of the family tree, and a never-ending list of logistics. I never even knew what chiavari chairs were!

The wedding world is in a different universe, and as much as you might envision that magical day, I do not believe any amount of pre-planning prepares you for diving into it.

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Falling Out of Love

April 26, 2018

In our very active and full lives, it is so easy to get caught up in the daily demands of our life and sacrifice love. Many struggling couples ask me, "Can you fall out of love?"

The truth is, love requires nurturing. No matter how deeply you love someone, if you allow weeds to grow in your relationship, they can crowd out love and choke the life right out of your marriage. It doesn't take long for two people in a loving relationship to become distant or "fall out of love." Because of the day-in, day-out details we are continually juggling in our lives, we can slip into autopilot in ways [...]

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7 Ways to Infuse Love into Your Marriage

March 20, 2018

The love is there—it just might have ebbed to the fringes a bit.

It happens. Not just after a “honeymoon” phase, the literal honeymoon, the first child or the third, but possibly throughout it all. The feeling of love in a marriage can naturally wax and wane.

Here are seven ways to welcome it back to the heart of your relationship.

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Before Wedding Planning, Get Clear About Your Priorities

February 13, 2018

Right after the proposal, everyone wants to see the ring, know the date, ask about the venue. As a newlywed couple, it’s easy to feel like you’re suddenly sliding down a steep slope to “I Do” without a moment to pause.

Swept up by the excitement, Emotional Intelligence tends to get pushed aside. (Related: What is Emotional Intelligence?)

You know when you’ve been staring at a screen too long and you suddenly wake up to your surroundings? Your eyes re-adjust. You realize you’re down some dark rabbit hole of Google or Instagram or whatever. You know that you’ve gone past the point of [...]

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Transform Criticism to Appreciation and Triple Your Love!

January 02, 2018

It’s common to hear couples complain about different behaviors of their partners while wishing their life could be happier. Somehow, we think that if our partner changed, we would be happier. Or we think, “If my partner would stop annoying me or start appreciating me, or be more intimate with me, our relationship would improve.”

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Let Go of Expectations and Start Enjoying Your Relationship

August 28, 2017

“I’ll be home on the first….if everything goes according to the plan.”

He didn’t need to say those last seven words. That caveat—if everything goes as planned—is a given in every conversation with my longtime boyfriend, who works as an officer in the US armed forces. Like knowing that your partner loves you even when he doesn’t say it in so many words, I know that our life is subject to change with little or no warning.

Always assume that nothing will go according to the plan.

He arrived home over two weeks late. That is beyond a “stuck at the office” or “your dinner got cold” [...]

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What Every Couple Can Learn from Military Relationships

June 19, 2017

Not every couple will struggle with glitchy Skype connections during months apart, the U.S. Government interrupting dinner, or the strain Top Secret secrets place on two people in love. Military relationships are subject to a laundry list of struggles—and joys—that others don’t have. But at the heart of military relationship challenges are the same human issues that every couple navigates.

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Love Is a Choice - the Best Marriage Advice!

October 24, 2016

We have been duped! “Happily ever after” has been made out to be something that happens magically when you’re in love. People don’t tell you how much work it takes to understand one another in everyday life. No one mentions how difficult it can be to set aside your own opinions to truly hear your partner’s opposing view. And no one prepares you with the necessary skills, such as how to express emotions without hurting your partner or how to calm your emotions so they don’t distort reality and blind you when communicating with your partner.

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The Stop, Drop, and Roll of Successful Communication

August 02, 2016

Most of us (especially parents) know what to do if our clothes catch fire: STOP, DROP, and ROLL. But do we know what to do if our relationship catches fire?

Our relationship may function smoothly and harmoniously most of the time. But when a conflict does arise, we may find out that we just don’t know how to resolve it. Many times, the problem lies in our lack of communication skills.

We all want to feel heard and understood. If we don’t know how to establish real connection through effective communication in our love relationship, we may find ourselves competing within the relationship [...]

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships, Communication & Interpersonal Skills

Can One Person Transform a Relationship?

May 18, 2016

It sounds impossible, right? After all, it takes two to tango. How can one person transform a relationship without the other one on board? Well, it does take two to tango, but if one dancer knows exactly what they're doing and practices often, he/she can teach their partner how to be a better dancer without them even knowing it. It may sound a little sly and tricky, but in some cases, it's just what a couple needs to make the shift from bitterness to bliss.

Posted in Love, Marriage, and Relationships

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