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Topics: Select a topic... All Emotional Intelligence & Fitness Leadership and Business Love, Marriage, and Relationships Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective Communication & Interpersonal Skills Habits for Health Heartmanity Webinars, Classes, and Events Filters ## [*The Heartmanity Year in Review*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-heartmanity-year-in-review) December 19, 2019 [![The Heartmanity Year in Review](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Directional-Signs-184138327_2003x1502.jpeg?width=600&name=Directional-Signs-184138327_2003x1502.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-heartmanity-year-in-review) Last year was a whirlwind year. As the retrospectives start rolling in, it doesn’t take much to floor me. Did all that really happen in 2019? Has it only been one year? Author José Saramago wrote this about time: “You never know beforehand what people are capable of, you have to wait, give it time, it's time that rules, time is our gambling partner on the other side of the table and it holds all the cards of the deck in its hand, we have to guess the winning cards of life, our lives.” *You never know what a year is capable of.* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-heartmanity-year-in-review) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness), [Habits for Health](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/habits-for-health) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*People-Pleasing Compliance—a Felony Against Self*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/people-pleasing-compliance-a-felony-against-self) August 15, 2019 [![People-Pleasing Compliance—a Felony Against Self](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Golden-Puppy-and-Young-Woman-90387724_3008x2000-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Golden-Puppy-and-Young-Woman-90387724_3008x2000-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/people-pleasing-compliance-a-felony-against-self) Have you ever felt the tang of saying yes when you really wanted to say no? Common responses of people pleasers go something like this: "Sure, I'd be happy to watch your dog for the weekend." "Absolutely, you can count on me for that fundraiser." "No problem—I'll help decorate the kids' lockers for the big game!" "Sure, I'll help you finish that project and stay at the office until it's done!" It's so easy to say yes, isn't it? Before we even think about our own needs, agreement, and caring responses slide off our tongues. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/people-pleasing-compliance-a-felony-against-self) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*5 Simple Keys to a Happier, Vibrant Life*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/5-simple-keys-to-a-happier-vibrant-life) August 10, 2019 [![5 Simple Keys to a Happier, Vibrant Life](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/There's-no-mountain-high-enough!-470692647_2122x1415-1.jpeg?width=600&name=There's-no-mountain-high-enough!-470692647_2122x1415-1.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/5-simple-keys-to-a-happier-vibrant-life) How would your life be different if you could have regular support, deep connection, and inspiration that you could count on? Life without love and friendship is empty. Work without support, collaboration, and a shared vision makes for a lonely path. As human beings, we are wired for relationship, and connecting is crucial. Families, businesses, and communities disintegrate without genuine connection. Happier living requires a connection with oneself and each other! *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/5-simple-keys-to-a-happier-vibrant-life) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness), [Emotional Intelligence](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Why Should You Care About Emotional Regulation?*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-should-you-care-about-emotional-regulation) July 30, 2019 [![Why Should You Care About Emotional Regulation?](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Growing-your-own-is-worth-the-effort-485487556_2163x1391-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Growing-your-own-is-worth-the-effort-485487556_2163x1391-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-should-you-care-about-emotional-regulation) Emotions. They can get the best of us, sometimes triggering primitive, short-sighted, and impulsive actions. Yet, unlike animals, humans have the ability to express and choose their emotions, as well as anticipate how other people will respond. Our emotional nature can be confusing and overwhelming, with many conflicting emotions swirling simultaneously; therefore, emotional regulation is key. When regulated, emotions provide us with important information. If we approach them with a curious and accepting attitude, they can be used to avert danger, solve problems, and bring us comfort. [\[...\]](https://blog.heartmanity.com/how-to-find-inner-peace-by-resolving-conflicting-feelings) [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/why-should-you-care-about-emotional-regulation) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Self-Compassion and Acceptance Can Ease Anxiety*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-compassion-and-acceptance-can-ease-anxiety) July 09, 2019 [![Self-Compassion and Acceptance Can Ease Anxiety](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Woman-receiving-bad-news-on-smartphone-502896132_2122x1416-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Woman-receiving-bad-news-on-smartphone-502896132_2122x1416-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-compassion-and-acceptance-can-ease-anxiety) I was a thumb sucker. I needed soothing right from the start. As a small child, I would rub my thumbs and fingers together, back and forth, incessantly. It drove my family and friends crazy, yet no matter how much they asked me to stop, I couldn’t. I didn’t understand my behavior, and I certainly didn’t know how to manage it. All I knew was that I couldn’t stop, no matter how much I wanted to. *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/self-compassion-and-acceptance-can-ease-anxiety) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*The Power of Good or Bad Habits*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-power-of-good-or-bad-habits) May 14, 2019 [![The Power of Good or Bad Habits](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Time-to-move-on-875458070_2125x1416-compressor-1.jpeg?width=600&name=Time-to-move-on-875458070_2125x1416-compressor-1.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-power-of-good-or-bad-habits) Habits control our lives whether we recognize it or not. If you’ve ever tried to overcome a bad habit, you’ll relate to the power of habits. From the moment you get up in the morning, your activities are on cruise control: brushing your teeth, showering, eating breakfast, exercising (or not), checking Facebook or your email inbox, rituals once you’re at work, etc. Whatever you repeat enough and do routinely, the brain will create a habit. Why? Because the brain is a superhighway of efficiency. *Estimated reading: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/the-power-of-good-or-bad-habits) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness), [Emotional Intelligence](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Do We Need to Experience Love to Be Loving?*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-we-need-to-experience-love-to-be-loving) May 09, 2019 [![Do We Need to Experience Love to Be Loving?](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Heart-and-brain.-Digital-interface-936289934_2313x1301-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Heart-and-brain.-Digital-interface-936289934_2313x1301-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-we-need-to-experience-love-to-be-loving) "Forgiveness" is a term used so often that few people question its intrinsic value. You'd probably agree that asking for and offering forgiveness has become common practice. Just like many others, I was taught growing up that when you hurt someone—even accidentally—the right thing to do is to say you're sorry and ask for forgiveness. Children quickly learn when adults expect an apology, even when a child may have lacked the skill to respond differently. Have we erred and put too much emphasis on behavior and not enough attention on understanding the person and their needs? *Estimated reading \[...\]* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/do-we-need-to-experience-love-to-be-loving) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness), [Most Popular](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/most-popular) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Give Yourself Permission to Feel to Cultivate Inner Freedom*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/give-yourself-permission-to-feel-to-cultivate-inner-freedom) April 14, 2019 [![Give Yourself Permission to Feel to Cultivate Inner Freedom](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/ripple-water-000030775888_Large.jpg?width=600&name=ripple-water-000030775888_Large.jpg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/give-yourself-permission-to-feel-to-cultivate-inner-freedom) Whenever I teach emotional intelligence classes or facilitate women's groups, I am reminded how difficult it can be for people to allow themselves to feel. Yes, emotions can be overwhelming, especially the heavier feelings, but with practice, they can be a great resource for happiness. But first, we need to feel. Give yourself permission to feel. But how? Giving yourself permission is vital to be happy. But how?  *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/give-yourself-permission-to-feel-to-cultivate-inner-freedom) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Tired of Being Overweight? Lose Weight with a New Perspective*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/tired-of-being-overweight-lose-weight-with-a-new-perspective) March 05, 2019 [![Tired of Being Overweight? Lose Weight with a New Perspective](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Young-woman-having-a-midnight-snack-516714616_2124x1416-compressor.jpeg?width=600&name=Young-woman-having-a-midnight-snack-516714616_2124x1416-compressor.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/tired-of-being-overweight-lose-weight-with-a-new-perspective) Are you struggling to get motivated or unable to lose weight? Does it feel like you’ve tried *everything* with no results?! It is discouraging, isn't it!? You’re not alone. It’s difficult for many people, including myself, to stay dedicated to a lifestyle that promotes health and fitness. Our schedules are crazy busy, and it takes discipline and consistency to develop healthy habits. Or does it? Is that all that’s going on? *Estimated reading time: 4 minutes* [Read More](https://blog.heartmanity.com/tired-of-being-overweight-lose-weight-with-a-new-perspective) Posted in [Emotional Intelligence & Fitness](https://blog.heartmanity.com/topic/emotional-intelligence-fitness) Facebook Twitter Pinterest Google+ LinkedIn ## [*Get Motivated!  7 Ways to Overcome Procrastination*](https://blog.heartmanity.com/get-motivated-7-ways-to-overcome-procrastination) February 05, 2019 [![Get Motivated!  7 Ways to Overcome Procrastination](https://blog.heartmanity.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Good-Business-News!-513381684_2125x1416.jpeg?width=600&name=Good-Business-News!-513381684_2125x1416.jpeg)](https://blog.heartmanity.com/get-motivated-7-ways-to-overcome-procrastination) Let’s first get this out of the way—life in modern times is demanding, no matter where you are in your life and career. The escalating demands on our time and attention are astronomical, especially with so many forms of [technology pulling on us](https://blog.heartmanity.com/technology-and-relationships-how-technology-affects-relationships). If you thought that it was only you feeling frazzled, it’s not! All of us need to mindfully keep ourselves encouraged and learn to stay motivated in purposeful action, not just get busier. 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