Parents yell and lose their patience, after all, they're human. However, many parents make it all the way through adulthood without yelling—until a toddler willfully says no, a 4-year-old refuses to put on his shoes, or a teenager worries them after missing their curfew.

Positive parenting begins with self-care, yet even when we take good care of ourselves as parents, children can throw some doozy curve balls. That's when parenting skills come in handy!

Estimated reading time: 5 minutes

While attending my son's football game, I observed an impatient mother. Before the game, we stopped and filled up at a local gas station. As I was waiting to use the restroom, a mother and her two young girls were coming out. The mother held the door wide open while waiting for her oldest daughter, who was meticulously washing her hands. She bombarded her with "Hurry! Hurry!" then turned to me and said: "Kids! They have no sense of hurry!”  

Yep, rushing and stressing—moments we've all experienced, right?

Estimated reading time: 3 minutes

Anger is misunderstood and underappreciated! Most people don't like anger, even angry people say they wish they didn't feel angry so much. Many people are afraid of anger, so they try their best to hold in their anger and heroically avoid making anyone else angry.

There are many unhealthy ways we deal with anger: we dodge it, judge it, repress it, disown it, cloak it, reject it, or lash out at others. And being on the receiving end of anger is intense and often feels threatening.

Why do we dislike anger so much? Why do so many people need anger management? And how can we express anger in [...]

How often do you actually stop what you’re doing and look someone in the eye when they’re talking to you, truly listening to every word? I’m betting, if you’re anything like me, with very little free time and little kids running around your house, that it’s not very often. Here are some common scenarios for me:

My first grader is tugging at my jeans and telling a story while I’m chopping some vegetables and asking the other one to get off the dining room table. I can barely hear what the story was even about. “Oh, that sounds cool,” I say pretending I caught it all.

Why is it so difficult for people to ask for help? Is it because we associate asking for help with vulnerability, with being weak, with not being enough?

Everyone's experience is unique, but vulnerability doesn't come easy for many people. It requires courage!

Estimated reading time: 3 minutes

In the summer, families head to city pools and lakes; water sports are always at the top of family fun. And with each season, water safety must stay top of mind. One of the vulnerabilities around the water is in the use of water wings, infant inner tubes, and toddler life jackets. They have become commonplace but are often a misinformed way of keeping our little ones safe.

We need to put water wings (and other inflatables) in proper perspective. One of the biggest problems is that parents believe their children are safe in water wings, so they let down their guard. I even saw a parent at [...]

Honesty is a core value I’ve espoused for many years. I didn’t always, though. When I was growing up, I was a chameleon, telling people what they wanted to hear and wanted me to be. It was a game of sorts: fooling people and seeing how smoothly I could transition between my Shakespearean acts. This time of my life came to a screeching halt when, as a young woman, I realized that I was caught in a web of illusion, half-truths, and confusion. Here's what I did.

Estimated reading time: 4 minutes

At a gathering of about thirty women, the subject of trustworthiness came up. Many of the women who were present did not feel comfortable sharing within their communities about the struggles they’d had in their lives and relationships. What a shame, when openness and sharing allow us to give and receive support!

Estimated reading time: 2 minutes

As I sit waiting for my flight at the Denver airport, I am struck by the busy but disjointed scene around me. The gentleman next to me has been surfing the web nonstop for an hour. All but one person out of about twenty at United Airlines Gate B82 are hooked into computers, cell phones, iPads, or a Kindle (including me as I write this blog). No smiles, no conversation.

Estimated reading: 3 minutes

Toddler behavior is one of the most delightful yet sometimes infuriating experiences of all time. Parenting a toddler with limits yet without squelching their vital energy and spirit requires a combination of skill, patience, and love. And toddler behavior problems tire even the best of parents!

So what is normal toddler behavior? As a new mom or even for a veteran mom, how do you know what is healthy autonomy sprouting? And how do you redirect a child's behavior compassionately, though firmly? Keep reading to learn tips for redirecting children's behavior and increase more parenting ease and [...]