Parents, Do You Have an Illusion of Control?

Let's face it; life can tire a person out! When you add up the jobs, romance (or lack of romance), friendship, parenting, being someone’s adult child yourself, self-care, sleeping, eating, exercising, being “tired out” can just grow and grow.

For many of us, the more we take on, the more stressed and tired we become. To compensate for the overwhelming feelings of being more and more out of control, we try to do even more. This tactic is a futile attempt to give ourselves and others the illusion that we “have it all together.” However, maybe we should release that illusion of control.

Loving your children means taking care of yourselfWhat if instead, we step back, take a deep breath, and decide what REALLY matters and needs to happen in this moment? What is actually most important to us?

Don't put more on your to-do list. Put more attention on deciding what to put on the to-do list and how to do those things in a way that makes us happy. Whatever we do needs to align with our values and enrich our relationships—instead of doing what drains us.  

Parenting means we care for ourselves and our children. We only have so much energy, so let’s stop using it to feed the illusion of control. Instead, let’s use our energy to love on ourselves, our families, our passions, our joys, and our learning. All good things!

Parents need self-care to be their best self, to be the best mom or dad they can be. Parenting is challenging enough without working against yourself!

For more positive parenting tips or parenting articles to relax into your parenting with awareness and ease, check out Heartmanity's parenting resources.

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Britta Hubbard / Heartmanity ContributorBritta Hubbard / Heartmanity Contributor
Britta Hubbard has been a parent educator, working within the framework of Redirecting Children's Behavior, for four years. Conducting classes, introductory seminars, and over-the-phone sessions to help individuals with their parenting challenges. She has been a Middle School Family and Consumer Science teacher for six years empowering adolescents in personal development and financial education. Her work was featured in Dr. Harry Wong's First Days of School publications and presentations. In addition to these occupations, Britta Hubbard faces her own joys and challenges in navigating the demanding landscape of being a parent of two young boys. She currently lives on Colorado's Western Slope and spends as much time as possible drinking herbal tea with her husband, sons, family, and friends while gazing at the beauty of the world around her.

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