Why Helicopter Parents Stunt a Child's Self-Reliance

August 04, 2018

Parenting is an elaborate and complex job that changes with each age as a child develops. Since our primary responsibility is to keep our children safe while providing a stable home, it’s understandable how involved—even overprotective—parents can become. However, the older a child gets, the less control we have as parents. (Every parent that has given their teenager the keys to the family car knows what I mean!) Therefore, the need for children and teens to make wise decisions is a great reason to help them build strong self-reliance and emotional intelligence.

Most parents have good [...]

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Releasing the Illusion of Control

July 19, 2018

Let's face it; life can tire a person out! When you add up the jobs, romance (or lack of romance), friendship, parenting, being someone’s adult child yourself, self-care, sleeping, eating, exercising, being “tired out” can just grow and grow.

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Parenting with the End in Mind—Theirs Not Yours!

July 05, 2018

This is going to be quick and sweet. When we parent, in the toughest moments of discomfort, challenge, and testing, we need to remember that we are parenting not only the 3-year-old child in front of us but also the 13-year-old teen in front of us, the 23-year-old young adult in front of us, and the 33-year-old adult in front of us … you get the point.

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Parents Need Self-Care to Be Their Best Self

May 11, 2018

You put the oxygen mask on yourself before others.

We hear that lesson reiterated often. But in practice—when a parent thinks their child needs help—what is their gut instinct?

Self-care for parents is a challenging issue, and yet parents need self-care to be their best self. Balancing work and home life with a career, socializing, financial issues, a marriage or relationship, and raising kids makes being a parent a difficult juggling act.

How can parents find time for their own wellness amidst the hustle?

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Parents: What heartprints are we imparting to our children?

May 08, 2018

Every parent is unique; every child is unique. All parents love their children, and all children love their parents—no matter how imperfectly. But do we truly take stock as parents of how we are imprinting our children through our daily interactions? As children grow up their identity is woven in large part by the parental messages and responses (or imprints) that they receive throughout their childhood.

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How to Stop Yelling and Prevent Misbehavior

April 18, 2018

You’re at the grocery store and your five-year-old asks for a candy bar. It’s dinnertime and you want him to eat real food at home, so you say no. Instantly your child starts whining, which quickly escalates into a full-blown tantrum. What do you do?

It’s morning and you have an early and very important meeting at the office. You need to get to work, but first you need to drop the kids off at school. Your elementary-age daughter refuses to get ready for school. She says she hates school and she won’t go. How do you deal with that?

Your teenage son gets mouthy when you tell him he can’t go [...]

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Why Exercising as a Family Makes Good Sense

April 14, 2018

Life before kids is such sweet sorrow; I used to take care of myself and exercise, up with the dawn for a refreshing run along the seashore. When my boy was born, I was up with the dawn running back and forth changing diapers. So ended the days of the refreshing oceanside runs.

Then a few months later when he was six months old, I had an epiphany: he wakes up early, I wake up early, why not sit him in the stroller and restart my sorely missed morning exercise routine? The fresh sea breeze was healthy for the both of us, and ever since I've found that we were both in a better mood after our [...]

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Teenage Rebellion and the Teen Parent Connection

April 10, 2018
With no hesitation, I can proudly say that my mother is my best friend in this world. And I remember detesting her. If you put a snapshot of my teenage years next to life today, they would probably look like two different people.

While adolescents are not a different breed, they might at times seem like it. This portrayal has only been heightened by media and movie portrayals. Teens get stereotyped as hormonal, socially lost or explosive.

Let’s put all that aside for a moment though to look at why teenage “rebellion” is actually perfectly in line.

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The Best Way to Deal with Teenage Rebellion

April 09, 2018

Many parents dread the teen years. They’ve heard negative, even scary, stories for years. As a culture, we’ve got teens pegged—out-of-control, disrespectful, and rebellious. Time for a change of perspective.

Just when our teens need us the most, they focus more on peers. Yet, this tendency does not displace the primary relationship teens have with their parents.

Time to understand how to create a strong teen parent connection! Time for hacking the teen brain. 

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4 Keys to Set Healthy Boundaries for Teens

October 07, 2017
  All parents hope their children will become respectful, responsible, and loving adults. However, family and work lives are extremely busy and hectic. Time collapses like a cheap cardboard box and soon the months turn to years and toddlers turn to teens. Parents find themselves stumped by the teenage years and completely unprepared.
 
As parents, we can slip into inattentive parenting from sheer exhaustion. Genes alone cannot give children emotional control. Sorry to disappoint but no gene guarantees emotional intelligence. This critical development is up to parents. Children [...]

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