How to Develop Resilience, and Why You Should!

June 14, 2018

Grit, resilience and perseverance have become buzzwords of late. From psychologist Angela Duckworth’s impactful interview on NPR to feminist graphic designs—grit and resilience are being recognized as the most important traits for success.

Developing your resilience can be the key to not only success at work, but a well-balanced social, home and family life, as well as your own self-care.

Still, many people spend a lot of time focusing on skills—in school, on job resumes, even in what’s taught to children. While there is nothing wrong with honing skills, the way you wield those skills is [...]

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Loneliness and Hunger—a Complex Relationship

May 29, 2018

Loneliness and hunger—they are two of the most powerful and intertwined natural instincts. These two sensations are powerhouses in the human body and brain, controlling everything from our sleep to libido, productivity, immunity, muscle development, and cognitive abilities.

“Now I know what loneliness is, I think. Momentary loneliness, anyway. It comes from a vague core of the self like a disease of the blood, dispersed throughout the body so that one cannot locate the matrix, the spot of contagion.”  ― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

This quote form Plath hits [...]

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Visualization and How to Create a Future You Love

May 24, 2018

It’s one thing to say you want something, another to make it a goal, and another to visualize yourself achieving your goal. The last option is possibly the most powerful.

Visualization has been cited as a game-changer by athletes like Olympian Kerri Walsh, celebrities like Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith and Jim Carrey, and influential business people like Bo Bennet and Harvey Mackay.

Rehearsing your own success is not just for the rich and famous, though. It is a powerful tool for everyone from parents at home to kids applying to college, business owners and everyday staff workers.

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Why Being a People Pleaser Damages Relationships—and What to Do About It

May 03, 2018

Are you a people pleaser? I was! In fact, growing up, I majored in pleasing others. I honestly believed as a child and young adult that if people didn’t need me, they wouldn’t want me. So I worked at being indispensable. My pleaser habit was so deeply rooted that I didn’t know I was giving up myself on a regular basis, in every relationship at home and work. My pattern of over-giving had great benefits—or so I thought.

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The Three Kinds of Empathy: Emotional, Cognitive, Compassionate

April 19, 2018

When a student tells you they’re overwhelmed or your partner comes home with bad news from work—do you respond with empathy?

This is a topic we’re impassioned about at Heartmanity, especially because empathy is so integral to emotional intelligence (EQ) and connecting with the people you love and work with.

So, how would you respond if your partner came home overwhelmed with fear, sadness and anger and told you she’d just lost her job? The ideal would be to respond thoughtfully and empathetically.

The thing is, not all empathy looks and feels the same. Just like not all sadness is the [...]

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Eliminate Clutter and Tackle that Spring Clean-Up for Good

April 12, 2018

A clean house or office, free from clutter and perfectly organized—isn’t that the dream?

There are thousands of resources out there with techniques for organizing, tips for decluttering, or a process for cleaning your closet. The list runs the gamut from “150+ Things to Throw Away Today” to “30 Ways to Instantly Declutter” and “The 4-Pile Strategy for Simplifying Your Closet.”

I have another idea: clutter is a mindset.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, Habits for Health

Self-Acceptance Is the Key to Authentic Power

April 03, 2018

Self-acceptance is the doorway to our authentic power. And when acceptance is lacking, it's one of the biggest stumbling blocks to a person’s solid sense of self and serenity. Without self-acceptance, there is no true freedom.

When we accept ourselves, we're able to embrace every part of ourselves unconditionally. We can acknowledge our strengths and capabilities as well as vulnerabilities and limitations. There is an awareness of our feelings, behavior and our impact on others. Not even our idiosyncrasies are disowned.

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Empathy vs Sympathy: What’s the Difference?

March 31, 2018

It’s an everyday occurrence in our lives: Someone talks to us about a challenge they’re facing. Perhaps a relative is sick, or their child got in trouble at school. Maybe their car needs an expensive repair, or they just can’t find enough hours in the day to get everything done. Or they could be lamenting about an awful argument they had with a neighbor or their spouse. Whatever the challenge, you might be the chosen listener.

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How to Find Inner Peace by Resolving Conflicting Feelings

March 13, 2018

Recently I was coaching a married couple who were having difficulty working things out. They brought up one particularly upsetting event that was very uncomfortable for them both. The wife was being honored at an awards ceremony for her achievements at work. A week before the ceremony, the husband agreed to go and even told her how proud he would be to stand by her side. She was very pleased that he would accompany her, and she thought they were both looking forward to the event.

But as they were getting dressed for the ceremony, the husband started bemoaning the fact that they had to go [...]

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How to Handle Distracting Technology at Home

March 01, 2018

You are now competing with pixels for the attention of nearly everyone you know. And you are probably losing.  

Technology addiction, screen time, the black hole of the internet, Reddit and the endless scroll of Instagram—not to mention those notifications every time an email slides in...the widespread influence of tech is a thing of daily life for most American families. There are more ways for screens to suck people in than there are people to be enticed.

The other day, my dog got so caught up in a Game of Thrones episode that she wouldn’t come when I called (there were wolves on the [...]

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