How to Find Inner Peace by Resolving Conflicting Feelings

March 13, 2018

Recently I was coaching a married couple who were having difficulty working things out. They brought up one particularly upsetting event that was very uncomfortable for them both. The wife was being honored at an awards ceremony for her achievements at work. A week before the ceremony, the husband agreed to go and even told her how proud he would be to stand by her side. She was very pleased that he would accompany her, and she thought they were both looking forward to the event.

But as they were getting dressed for the ceremony, the husband started bemoaning the fact that they had to go [...]

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How to Handle Distracting Technology at Home

March 01, 2018

You are now competing with pixels for the attention of nearly everyone you know. And you are probably losing.  

Technology addiction, screen time, the black hole of the internet, Reddit and the endless scroll of Instagram—not to mention those notifications every time an email slides in...the widespread influence of tech is a thing of daily life for most American families. There are more ways for screens to suck people in than there are people to be enticed.

The other day, my dog got so caught up in a Game of Thrones episode that she wouldn’t come when I called (there were wolves on the [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

The Spaces in Between Are Just as Important

February 27, 2018

We are essentially just moving our bodies around in space. I remind my yoga students that from time to time, not to diminish the importance of yoga to them or to make it seem trivial. In fact, operating in space is exactly the opposite.

Open space is, in my mind, incredibly under-appreciated. So often we spend our days rushing through space, whether that’s hurtling through traffic from point A to B in our car or hastening to complete the next bullet point on our never-ending to-do list.

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How to Be an Authentic Leader

February 22, 2018

“Great things in business are never done by one person.”

In 2003—the year Apple launched the iTunes music store—Steve Jobs went on 60 Minutes and explained his view of leadership.

Again and again throughout the history of effective leaders, a similar sentiment is echoed: to be an authentic leader is not to lead the most people, wield the most power, or even achieve the most outcomes. To be an authentic leader lies deeper than those surface measures, in character and emotional intelligence.

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Is a Lack of Empathy Destroying Our Interconnectivity?

February 20, 2018

Day by day, we have more and more ability through technology to stay connected, even globally. But day by day, many of us feel more and more alone. It’s counterintuitive—but the statistics don’t lie. Divorce rates are high and depression is rampant. Among teens, the more screen time they report, the higher their rate of depression. Suicide rates in all age groups are up. Every 12 minutes, someone in the US commits suicide. 

These are not the marks of a genuinely interconnected society. But, we say, we’re so connected! Or are we? Let’s take a closer look at what’s really going on in our [...]

Posted in Communication & Interpersonal Skills, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Why Companies Fail without Leaders with Emotional Intelligence

January 18, 2018

Leadership requires much more than business smarts. Poor decision-making, breakdowns in communication, knee-jerk reactions to employees, taking credit for another's work or a lack of engagement are a few examples that can be problematic. These behaviors can act as a disease in business and undo even the most prominent companies. What is becoming more and more corroborated is that a leader's success depends not on a business degree but much more heavily on their ability to get along with people, to lead and inspire people. 

Posted in Leadership and Business, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

What’s Your Coping Style When Head and Hard Don’t Align?

January 06, 2018

Pop Quiz: How Do You Cope?

What do you do when you have everything you want and need, but you still don’t feel happy? You have satisfying work; your finances support you; you have a strong home life...but it still feels like something is missing for true happiness.

Do you shut down? Do you rev up? If you want to exit the conversation the second I ask you if you feel fulfilled...that’s probably a clue.

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The Heartmanity Year in Review

December 28, 2017

2017 was a whirlwind year. As the retrospectives start rolling in, it doesn’t take much to floor me. Did all that really happen in 2017? Has it only been one year?

Author José Saramago wrote this about Time: “You never know beforehand what people are capable of, you have to wait, give it time, it's time that rules, time is our gambling partner on the other side of the table and it holds all the cards of the deck in its hand, we have to guess the winning cards of life, our lives.”

You never know what a year is capable of.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, Habits for Health

Learning How to Set Healthy Boundaries with Family

December 23, 2017
Blurred family boundaries have repercussions. At best, they can be annoying, at worst they’re completely soul-crushing. We’ve all seen examples—the siblings who constantly pester each other; the helicopter parent; the grandparents who take control from the parents.

Setting healthy boundaries on the other hand creates a dynamic, thriving relationship where both parties can be genuine and grow together. That’s the ideal; and it is not always (hardly ever) an easy one to achieve. Establishing limits in family life is worth the work, though.

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Speaking Your Truth Even When It's Uncomfortable

December 11, 2017

There’s been a lot of truth-speaking filling the social discourse lately...and a lot of not-truth speaking. Especially with the proliferation of sexual assault discussions in every corner of every vocation nationwide, the idea of “speaking your truth” is front and center.

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