Apathy Is the Enemy of Empathy

November 27, 2018

Whether it's a friend, spouse, or a co-worker, the unknown of another's emotions can make us very uneasy even if we desire to support the person. Sometimes it's just easier to remain on our own island and ensure safety and predictability. 

Do you steer away from those "soft" feelings because they might take you places you are unprepared to go?

Do others’ reactions and charged emotions frighten you? 

Are you concerned that you'll be sucked into an abyss of someone else's pain? After all, some days we are barely dealing with life's challenges ourselves.

At a time with much uncertainty and [...]

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Why You Should Stop Being a People Pleaser

October 23, 2018

Recently, I quoted Ayn Rand to someone close to me, and the person quickly retorted that I couldn't possibly buy into her philosophy. Their fervent response surprised me, so I inquired what he meant. The answer unfolded a fascinating discussion.

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How to Understand and Overcome Jealousy

August 23, 2018

Jealousy is a misunderstood and harshly judged emotion. Who likes to admit to jealousy? And when was the last relationship you heard about that relished their husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend being jealous? Jealousy can destroy relationships and eat away at us from the inside out. However, at one time or another, most people feel its sting.

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Is Procrastination Stopping You from Fulfilling Your Dreams?

July 26, 2018

We’ve all done it in some area of our lives or another. You know you need to get “it” done, you watch your time running out, you feel your stress build, and still...you don’t get “it” done. Not until the absolute last minute (if then).

Procrastinating is no stranger. But should you try to make it one?

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Resiliency—the Ability to Bounce Back

July 20, 2018

One beautiful autumn evening, after a full day with clients, I was carrying the groceries through the living room when I noticed my dog's peculiar paw prints on the carpet. In shock, I quickly dumped the bags on a table and walked into our kitchen, which now resembled a toddlers' wading pool.

The floor was covered with an inch of water, and it was rapidly seeping into the dining room carpet. Where the heck was the water coming from? Quickly I ran down to the basement to grab old towels to soak up the water—and was greeted with the horror of another flood, water still gushing from above and [...]

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A Fixed Mindset Versus a Growth Mindset

July 03, 2018

It’s a story that many of us have heard multiple times: the two fighting wolves.

“A fight is going on inside me,” a man said to a boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The boy thought [...]

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How to Develop Resilience, and Why You Should!

June 14, 2018

Grit, resilience and perseverance have become buzzwords of late. From psychologist Angela Duckworth’s impactful interview on NPR to feminist graphic designs—grit and resilience are being recognized as the most important traits for success.

Developing your resilience can be the key to not only success at work, but a well-balanced social, home and family life, as well as your own self-care.

Still, many people spend a lot of time focusing on skills—in school, on job resumes, even in what’s taught to children. While there is nothing wrong with honing skills, the way you wield those skills is [...]

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Loneliness and Hunger—a Complex Relationship

May 29, 2018

Loneliness and hunger—they are two of the most powerful and intertwined natural instincts. These two sensations are powerhouses in the human body and brain, controlling everything from our sleep to libido, productivity, immunity, muscle development, and cognitive abilities.

“Now I know what loneliness is, I think. Momentary loneliness, anyway. It comes from a vague core of the self like a disease of the blood, dispersed throughout the body so that one cannot locate the matrix, the spot of contagion.”  ― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

This quote form Plath hits [...]

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Visualization and How to Create a Future You Love

May 24, 2018

It’s one thing to say you want something, another to make it a goal, and another to visualize yourself achieving your goal. The last option is possibly the most powerful.

Visualization has been cited as a game-changer by athletes like Olympian Kerri Walsh, celebrities like Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith and Jim Carrey, and influential business people like Bo Bennet and Harvey Mackay.

Rehearsing your own success is not just for the rich and famous, though. It is a powerful tool for everyone from parents at home to kids applying to college, business owners and everyday staff workers.

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Why Being a People Pleaser Damages Relationships—and What to Do About It

May 03, 2018

Are you a people pleaser? I was! In fact, growing up, I majored in pleasing others. I honestly believed as a child and young adult that if people didn’t need me, they wouldn’t want me. So I worked at being indispensable. My pleaser habit was so deeply rooted that I didn’t know I was giving up myself on a regular basis, in every relationship at home and work. My pattern of over-giving had great benefits—or so I thought.

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