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What’s Your Coping Style When Head and Hard Don’t Align?

January 06, 2018

Pop Quiz: How Do You Cope?

What do you do when you have everything you want and need, but you still don’t feel happy? You have satisfying work; your finances support you; you have a strong home life...but it still feels like something is missing for true happiness.

Do you shut down? Do you rev up? If you want to exit the conversation the second I ask you if you feel fulfilled...that’s probably a clue.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

The Heartmanity Year in Review

December 28, 2017

2017 was a whirlwind year. As the retrospectives start rolling in, it doesn’t take much to floor me. Did all that really happen in 2017? Has it only been one year?

Author José Saramago wrote this about Time: “You never know beforehand what people are capable of, you have to wait, give it time, it's time that rules, time is our gambling partner on the other side of the table and it holds all the cards of the deck in its hand, we have to guess the winning cards of life, our lives.”

You never know what a year is capable of.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, Habits for Health

Learning How to Set Healthy Boundaries with Family

December 23, 2017
Blurred family boundaries have repercussions. At best, they can be annoying, at worst they’re completely soul-crushing. We’ve all seen examples—the siblings who constantly pester each other; the helicopter parent; the grandparents who take control from the parents.

Setting healthy boundaries on the other hand creates a dynamic, thriving relationship where both parties can be genuine and grow together. That’s the ideal; and it is not always (hardly ever) an easy one to achieve. Establishing limits in family life is worth the work, though.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Speaking Your Truth Even When It's Uncomfortable

December 11, 2017

There’s been a lot of truth-speaking filling the social discourse lately...and a lot of not-truth speaking. Especially with the proliferation of sexual assault discussions in every corner of every vocation nationwide, the idea of “speaking your truth” is front and center.

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

"Look What You Made Me Do!" How to Escape the Blame Game and Live with Integrity

October 21, 2017

“Look what you made me do.”

Even if you haven’t said those words, you probably know the feeling. Your friend startles you and you drop something fragile. Your co-worker procrastinates and you miss a deadline. Your spouse does something infuriating and you get frustrated or angry.

I recently found myself in a situation that I hope never to repeat; the kind that makes your stomach turn and the spot between your lungs feel tight. After moving to a new city and starting a new job, I dove headfirst into my role; I volunteered for more responsibility, took on projects, got handed extra work and [...]

Posted in Leadership and Business, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

4 Keys to Set Healthy Boundaries for Teens

October 07, 2017
All parents hope their children will become respectful, responsible, and loving adults. However, family and work lives are extremely busy and hectic. Time collapses like a cheap cardboard box and soon the months turn to years and toddlers turn to teens. Parents find themselves stumped by the teenage years and completely unprepared. 
As parents, we can slip into inattentive parenting from sheer exhaustion. Genes alone cannot give children emotional control. Sorry to disappoint but no gene guarantees emotional intelligence. This critical development is up to parents. Children [...]

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness, Parenting Favorites

Your Inner Wifi, a Roadmap to Inner Peace and Emotional Fitness

August 22, 2017

Have you ever felt like your emotions are in the way of true happiness? The daily hassles, frustrations, and disappointments crowd out the possibility of joy?

Perhaps anger thwarts meaningful connections with your teen or spouse. Hmm. 

Or maybe you're passionate about growing your own business but your fear and insecurity derail productivity and essential actions? Hmm.

Or you're stressed out and struggling with anxiety? Maybe too emotional? Hmm.

Whatever problems you may have, I am convinced that they all lead back to missing skills in the processing and handling of your emotions [...]

Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

Simple Ways to Build Agility and Emotional Fitness

July 31, 2017

One beautiful autumn evening, after a full day with clients, I was carrying the groceries through the living room when I noticed my dog's peculiar pawprints on the carpet. I quickly dumped the bags on a nearby table and walked into our kitchen, which now resembled a toddlers' wading pool. The floor was covered with an inch of water, and it was rapidly seeping into the dining room carpet. Where the heck was the water coming from? Quickly I ran down to the basement to grab old towels to soak up the water—and was greeted with the horror of another flood, water gushing from above and multiple [...]

Posted in Brain Fitness, Mindfulness and Perspective, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

How to Effectively Help Your Children with Stress

July 19, 2017

Psychology Today has this to say about stress. "Stress generally refers to two things: the psychological perception of pressure, on the one hand, and the body's response to it... Lifesaving as the stress response is, it was meant to solve short-term, life-threatening problems, not extended difficulties ... Prolonged or repeated arousal of the stress response, a characteristic of modern life, can have harmful physical and psychological effects."

However, it is the perception of a threat by you and your child that determines whether or not a cascade of survival chemicals is triggered and [...]

Posted in Parents: Permission to Be Imperfect, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

How to Make Employee Evaluations More Effective and Meaningful

July 06, 2017

Evaluating employees is a workplace standard that has been used for decades. At this point, it’s routine. Business is changing, though—just look at the prevalence of startups, unconventional office spaces, even workplace yoga.

Mindfulness is one of the fastest-growing interests in the business sphere. Now it is changing employee evaluations and feedback, too. When that inevitable, and admittedly awkward, time of year comes around for discussing employees' effectiveness with them, mindfulness is creating a new outlook for workers and managers alike.

Posted in Leadership and Business, Emotional Intelligence & Fitness

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