Nothing is more exciting and empowering than working on a project or playing on a dynamic team—until it’s not. An energetic brainstorming can go completely awry by a subtle putdown. A co-worker makes a critical comment about a blog posted on the company newsletter. Someone makes a disparaging remark about another person's work. Most everyone has experienced something like this, right?
We now know that the brain plays a central role in just about everything, from our thoughts, to our emotions, to our behavior—for better or worse—our brain is the engine. Research has also shown us that our brains have the incredible capacity to rewire themselves. Therefore, each of us can essentially create and wire our best brain.
A couple of years ago, I lectured to a group of business owners on employee engagement. A gentleman gave lavish praise for one employee in particular. In the same breath, he also lamented how difficult it would be to find a replacement to fill her shoes. The business owner had many reasons for his fondness: "She stayed late whenever asked to get projects done and with amazing accuracy." "She always volunteered to go the extra mile!" "She was super productive!" "She was the first to come to work and the last to leave." "And the best part, she was very popular in the office because she went [...]
Posted in Leadership and Business
Have you ever felt like your emotions are in the way of true happiness? The daily hassles, frustrations, and disappointments crowd out the possibility of joy?
Perhaps anger thwarts meaningful connections with your teen or spouse. Hmm.
Or maybe you're passionate about growing your own business but your fear and insecurity derail productivity and essential actions? Hmm.
Or you're stressed out and struggling with anxiety? Maybe too emotional? Hmm.
Whatever problems you may have, I am convinced that they all lead back to missing skills in the processing and handling of your emotions [...]
Posted in Emotional Intelligence & Fitness
One beautiful autumn evening, after a full day with clients, I was carrying the groceries through the living room when I noticed my dog's peculiar pawprints on the carpet. I quickly dumped the bags on a nearby table and walked into our kitchen, which now resembled a toddlers' wading pool. The floor was covered with an inch of water, and it was rapidly seeping into the dining room carpet. Where the heck was the water coming from? Quickly I ran down to the basement to grab old towels to soak up the water—and was greeted with the horror of another flood, water gushing from above and multiple [...]
Psychology Today has this to say about stress. "Stress generally refers to two things: the psychological perception of pressure, on the one hand, and the body's response to it... Lifesaving as the stress response is, it was meant to solve short-term, life-threatening problems, not extended difficulties ... Prolonged or repeated arousal of the stress response, a characteristic of modern life, can have harmful physical and psychological effects."
However, it is the perception of a threat by you and your child that determines whether or not a cascade of survival chemicals is triggered and [...]
Emotional development is not only complex; its architecture is constructed over many years and requires a multitude of experiences and interchanges. Our job as parents is to help a child understand their constantly changing [...]
Many parents dread the teenage years. They’ve heard negative, even scary, stories for years. As a culture, we’ve got teens pegged—out-of-control, disrespectful, and rebellious. Just when our teens need us the most, they rebel and focus on peers.Time for a change of perspective.
Success. Most people desire success; few would say they’ve achieved it.
First of all, to have success in any area of life, we need to define what success means to us. If we have only a vague idea of what it means to us, how can we ever hope to arrive at that lofty place? We will never be able to measure how far or how close we are to success if we have not clearly and specifically defined it.